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Dirty Talk: How To Get Started

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Dirty Talk: How To Get Started Dirty Talk is one of the most exciting sexual skills to master. Using your voice in bed offers many benefits: you can ask for more of what you want, arouse your lover with a few words and tap into your erotic creativity so sex never gets boring again.

Most people would love more erotic talk in their sex life. But few are confident enough to try it out. This guide offers a step by step process to unleash your erotic voice and get you more talkative in bed.

When most people think about erotic talk, they are thinking about “dirty talk” – raunchy, rough words exchanged in the throes of pleasure.

You can use your voice in bed to express love, to tease, to instruct, to encourage, to dominate or to transport yourself into a fantasy. Your choice of words, tone of voice and your intention all add up to create a specific experience and outcome.

So think beyond “dirty talk” and give yourself permission to use your voice in a way that is authentic to your specific erotic experience. You don’t have to pretend to be anything to tap into the power of erotic talk!

Listen to the podcast (just hit the play button at the top of this page!) for a full guide to dirty talk.

Dirty Talk: How To Get Started

Talk about sex outside of the bedroom. Here is our favorite way to introduce sex in conversation: “I saw an article/heard a podcast about __(insert topic here)__. What do you think about that?”
Read erotica out loud to one another. Notice what kind of dialogue turns you on.
Listen to erotica audiobooks. Our favorites are the anthologies by Rose Caraway on Audible.com. Get a FREE audio book with your free trial membership by clicking here!
Make noise in bed. Focus on making a sound on the exhale.
Choose your language. Talk to your lover about what words you both like for your body parts and sex acts. Penis? Cock? Dick? Vulva? Pussy? Cunt? Don’t risk turning one another off with the wrong choice of words!
Dirty talk doesn’t have to be dirty! Dirty talk is just one kind of erotic talk. Erotic talk can be raunchy, romantic, playful or seductive. Find your own voice!
Describe what your lover is doing as they are doing it. Think of it as erotic narration.
For way more tips and strategies, tune into the podcast by hitting the “play” button above!

Long Distance Relationship Sex For Everyone

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You may be in a long distance relationship – even if you share a bed every night.

When you think about it, long distance relationships are really “low in-person time together” relationships.

We recently talked to a doctor who worked opposite shifts as her doctor husband. She said it felt “like sharing a home with a ghost.” Many people are so busy that their once a month date night is the only time they really get to talk to one another.

Think about it – how many hours per week do you spend with your lover? How many of those hours are devoted fully to being together as lovers, connecting?

For many couples, time together is far too scarce. This distance (whether physical or not) can work for and against your love life.

On one hand, distance creates longing and anticipation. You may cherish your time together and not take one another for granted.

On the other hand, distance can create emotional chasms between you and you may find it hard to connect when you have the chance. You may feel a lot of pressure when you do have the chance to be together, and that pressure can make intimacy fizzle out.

Whether you live in the same home or on different continents, there are strategies for staying connected and maintaining a great love life when time together is scarce.

In this week’s episode you will:

find out how to get all of your needs met (without relying on one person!)
learn how to cultivate your own sexual energy
get strategies so you and your partner don’t become erotic strangers
find the balance between building anticipation and being authentic
optimize the sexiness of long distance relationships while minimizing the risks

Don’t miss this episode if you have ever felt distant from your lover!

Effective Erotic Communication

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Effective Erotic Communication

Asking for what you want in bed and talking to your lover during sex can feel scary and overwhelming. What if it was part of the turn-on instead? What if learning to effectively communicate your erotic needs was a key to your sexual fulfillment.

In this episode, we share an awesome food analogy from the brilliant Dr. Mary Klein. He reminds us that to cook a meal together, or embark on any creative collaboration, you need a common language. The same is true for sex: to create the erotic life you really want, you need an erotic vocabulary. Tune in to find out how to develop it, in and out of the bedroom!

Because erotic communication is one of the most important skills for sexual fulfillment and healthy relationships, we have put together an interactive resource guide on erotic communication – available here or as part of a Pleasure Pod membership. Membership includes our resource pod on Erotic Communication as just one of the many curated resources for Pleasure Pod Members!

Help! My Partner Doesn’t Share My Fetish

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A Help! My Partner Doesn't Share My Fetish listener writes in asking for advice on how to get his wife to be more enthusiastic about his fetish.

He gets aroused by a fetish that many others share, but his wife isn’t that into it. In this episode we cover what we can all learn from this situation.

We cover:

What the internet has revealed about human sexual diversity
How to negotiate your sexual desires
Techniques to enjoy participating in your partner’s fetish
What to do if your partner’s fetish is a turn-off
How being open minded about desire benefits your sex life

This episode may surprise or shock you in moments, but ultimately is for you if you want to experience a more fulfilling sex life while being authentic and honest with your partner.

What Great Lovers and Pro Athletes Have In Common

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Want to be a sexual athlete? Or maybe an erotic artist? Or perhaps you just want to have better sex.

If you want to improve your sex life and experience extraordinary pleasure, you have to dedicate yourself to practicing new sexual skills. Learning new skills doesn’t have to be boring, clinical or unromantic. It can in fact be a beautiful expression of love and devotion!

In this podcast, we explore what great lovers and pro athletes have in common, and we invite you to join the exclusive club of sexual athlete and artists!