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Dirty Dates: Rachel Kramer Bussel

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Dirty Dates :: Free Podcast InterviewRachel Kramer Bussel is a powerhouse in the world of erotica and sex journalism. She has edited over 50 anthologies and regularly writes for a wide range of publications and websites, ranging from the Oprah magazine and The New York Times to several sex positive and feminist websites.

Her writing is always provocative, insightful and most of all a pleasure to read. We are thrilled to welcome her onto the show to talk about her new book, Dirty Dates: Erotic Fantasies For Couples. 

We highly recommend erotica as a tool for exploring your erotic imagination.

Erotica audiobooks are another great tool. Grab your FREE audiobook of one of Rachel’s anthologies over at Audible.com by clicking here. You’ll get your first book absolutely free with your new membership. Cancel anytime and keep your first book for life.

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There’s a sensual beauty to these stories that I believe will speak to those who practice kink in their lives and those who don’t, because in some ways the tenderness, the charge, the power shifting back and forth between partners, transcends kink. It speaks to ideals of worship, wonder, adoration—from both sides. Even the most sadistic men and women whose worlds you’re about to enter clearly value those they are asking to give them their bodies, their minds, their words, their beings. They are living out their most vivid fantasies with the person they most cherish. I hope you enjoy their dreams, fantasies and explorations, and that they inspire your own. – Rachel Kramer Bussel, Introduction to Dirty Dates

Learn more about Rachel Kramer Bussel’s work and follow her online here.

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Dirty Talk: How To Get Started

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Dirty Talk: How To Get StartedDirty Talk is one of the most exciting sexual skills to master. Using your voice in bed offers many benefits: you can ask for more of what you want, arouse your lover with a few words and tap into your erotic creativity so sex never gets boring again.

Most people would love more erotic talk in their sex life. But few are confident enough to try it out. This guide offers a step by step process to unleash your erotic voice and get you more talkative in bed.

When most people think about erotic talk, they are thinking about “dirty talk” – raunchy, rough words exchanged in the throes of pleasure.

You can use your voice in bed to express love, to tease, to instruct, to encourage, to dominate or to transport yourself into a fantasy. Your choice of words, tone of voice and your intention all add up to create a specific experience and outcome.

So think beyond “dirty talk” and give yourself permission to use your voice in a way that is authentic to your specific erotic experience. You don’t have to pretend to be anything to tap into the power of erotic talk!

Listen to the podcast (just hit the play button at the top of this page!) for a full guide to dirty talk. 

Dirty Talk: How To Get Started

  • Talk about sex outside of the bedroom. Here is our favorite way to introduce sex in conversation: “I saw an article/heard a podcast about __(insert topic here)__. What do you think about that?”
  • Read erotica out loud to one another. Notice what kind of dialogue turns you on.
  • Listen to erotica audiobooks. Our favorites are the anthologies by Rose Caraway on Audible.com. Get a FREE audio book with your free trial membership by clicking here!
  • Make noise in bed. Focus on making a sound on the exhale.
  • Choose your language. Talk to your lover about what words you both like for your body parts and sex acts. Penis? Cock? Dick? Vulva? Pussy? Cunt? Don’t risk turning one another off with the wrong choice of words!
  • Dirty talk doesn’t have to be dirty! Dirty talk is just one kind of erotic talk. Erotic talk can be raunchy, romantic, playful or seductive. Find your own voice!
  • Describe what your lover is doing as they are doing it. Think of it as erotic narration.
  • For way more tips and strategies, tune into the podcast by hitting the “play” button above!

Exploring Aural Pleasure with Rose Caraway

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Exploring Aural Pleasure with Rose CarawayOne of our favorite ways to create a quick mental vacation is to listen to erotica. Reading erotica is great, but listening can be even better.

While you wash the dishes, clean the house, commute to work or even as you drift off to sleep, you can enjoy being swept away into a fantasy. We find listening to erotica can recharge your libido, make you happier and help you relax. 

On this week’s podcast we speak with Rose Caraway, The Sexy Librarian, about the benefits of erotica.

Don’t miss this conversation about how you can use erotica to bring more inspiration and creativity to your love life.

51P-53KyR3L._SL300_Rose Caraway is a writer, editor, blogger, narrator, audiobook producer and podcaster.

She celebrates all things erotica and is fondly know as “The Sexy Librarian” who curates sexy stories for her fans.

Her new book, The Sexy Librarians’ Big Book of Erotica (book or audiobook) is a collection of some of her favorite erotica short stories across a wide range of erotica genres.

With this book, you are sure to find your favorite fantasies and discover new turn-ons!

We think listening to erotica is a powerful practice. Don’t take our word for it: give it a try and let us know how it works for you! Our friends at Audible are offering you a FREE audiobook download of your choice. Click the banner below, sign up for your FREE account and then browse the erotica section for a book that tempts you!

You can get a free download of one of her audiobooks by signing up for a 30 day free trial from our friends at Audible

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Erotic Bondage

Have ever fantasized about being tied up and losing yourself in a world of sensation? Feeling the snug hold of the cuffs as you give yourself over to sex? You are not alone! Erotic bondage is one of the most popular themes in sexual fantasies and kinky desires.

Erotic bondage gives you the opportunity to fully surrender to your lover’s touch. There is nowhere to go and you can struggle all you’d like: you are theirs.

From simple velcro cuffs to intricate rope bondage, there are tons of ways to play with erotic bondage. 

ALL erotic bondage requires active and ongoing consent, communication and awareness to safety for all involved. Here are some basic erotic bondage safety pointers – more skills and awareness will be required for various levels of erotic bondage!

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Erotica for Women

Erotica is read by women all around the world, and has been part of human sexuality for centuries. From the first cave paintings to the kindle craze of Fifty Shades of Grey, human beings have used the technology available to them to express and explore sexuality.

The best erotica is often based in fantasy, and transports the reader to a new world where anything is possible. Fantasy is an essential part of human sexuality, allowing us the freedom and catharsis to explore and be aroused by situations we would never want in our real lived lives. This need for fantasy extends way beyond sex – think about how many of your favorite books, movies and shows are fantasies at heart!

People who love action movies or superheroes don’t problematize their interest in the fantasy world. Yet somehow we give ourselves permission to watch action movies and enjoy the car chases and explosions, but when we read erotic fantasies many of us are worried about being aroused by fantasies – even though we wouldn’t want to be on a pirate ship in real life any more than we’d want to be in a high speed car chase. The idea of it is exciting, the reality might be devastating. Fantasy gives us this alternate reality where anything is possible, there are no limits and we are free to imagine and be aroused by our creative visions.

Compilations of short stories are useful because they allow you to sample a wide range of voices, scenarios and characters without the time investment of a whole novel. Many women report, however, that they enjoy going on a journey with the main character of erotica, and find short stories limited in the emotional intimacy department. Do you prefer long epic trilogies or quickie short stories? Let us know in the comments.

Here is some of our favorite erotica for women. Know about great books you want to share? Let us know in the comments or get in touch privately!

Best Erotica Series for Women

The Sleeping Beauty Series by Anne Rice writing as A.N. Roquelaure (The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty’s Punishment and Beauty’s Release)

The Fifty Shades Series by E.L. James (Fifty Shades of Grey, Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed)

 

Best Erotica Books for Women

The Story of O by Pauline Reage (a classic, almost old-fashioned, which only adds to the charm!)

Delta of Venus by Anaïs Nin (also be sure to read her diaries, for a complete training in sensual and passionate living!)

Spring Into Summer by Eden Baylee (four short erotica novellas from one of the best contemporary erotic fiction authors)

Best Erotica Short Stories for Women

The Best Women’s Erotica Series Edited by Violet Blue

Best Sex Writing 2012: The State of Today’s Sexual Culture Edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel and Susie Bright

Five Minute Erotica Edited by Carol Queen

Macho Sluts by Pat Califia (A classic in the field, featuring very heavy lesbian bdsm!)

Gay Erotica? Fireman Erotica? Fetish Erotica? Cleis Press has you covered with a “Best Of” anthology covering a big range of interests!

On Our Nightstand To Read:

Slammed by Colleen Hoover

 

 

 

 

We’d love to hear your votes for the best erotica for women –  be in touch with your recommendations!