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Cock and Ball Play

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Cock and Ball Play

When you hear “cock and ball play” what comes to mind? For most people, intense images of clamps, bondage and other extreme toys come to mind. While cock and ball play is sometimes called “cock and ball torture” this type of stimulation doesn’t have to be intense to be fun!

In this podcast, expert Hardy Haberman shares the basics of cock and ball play – including how to communicate and a few easy toys to get started with cock and ball stimulation.

The podcast covers:

  • the importance of communication as you start exploring CBT
  • why going slowly is always the wisest path when playing with these precious parts
  • the “starter kit” for sensation toys so you don’t have to spend a fortune
  • how one unexpected household item can get you started in cock and ball play
  • simple bondage techniques that anyone can use to begin experimenting

This podcast features an excerpt from Hardy Haberman’s essay found in The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and The Erotic Edge edited by T. Taormino.

Why Penis Size Matters

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This podcast features an excerpt from The Soul of Sex by Thomas Moore.

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What if when men feel sad and inadequate about their penis size and crave a bigger, harder cock that perhaps what you really want is all the qualities you believe a larger penis will bring you. That in truth what you really want is what the penis symbolizes to you, which in reality you can actually have free access to without changing your penis size.

The key here is to understand what does the idea of having a bigger penis symbolize to you, what would it mean to you? What are you craving more of, what do you desire? What is it you want to create in your life, what is it that makes you feel alive, how do you want to become an extraordinary lover?

What would a larger penis mean to  you? Is it more masculinity, a greater ability to please women sexually, being sexually virile, experiencing more power, more vitality, more abundance and more attractiveness? What would happen if as a man you allowed yourself to embody and cultivate these qualities as you are inspired to, regardless of the size of your penis. Because the truth is all of those qualities have been symbolized by a large penis throughout time and in many cultures, but the qualities are in fact separate from the size.

In our culture if men are feeling sexually insecure and not sure that they are doing a good job pleasing women sexually that our culture tells us that the solution is to have a bigger penis. However to please women powerfully you do not need a bigger penis, that is a myth. What you may need instead is the qualities of an idealized man, more skill, more sensitivity, more awareness, more passion and more presence. These qualities are available to you to grow, cultivate and embody whatever size penis you have. These are equal opportunity sexual skills available to men of all penis size because they are qualities entirely separate from penis size.

Ridding yourself of the myth that to have a better sexual life you need a bigger penis is essential to your sexual happiness. As getting rid of any iota of shame and embarrassment you have about your penis size frees up that energy to become a better lover and show up more fully in bed for your lover’s pleasure, which could really make a difference in your world now and over your lifetime.  

My challenge to you this week is to think about how you relate to penis size, really think about what having a big penis symbolizes to you and what is one action you could take to cultivate those qualities in your life now regardless of your size.

And if you are someone who spends anytime worrying about your size, I really invite you to give this question of what would having a big penis mean to you a real ponder. Freeing yourself of this myth and concern can make a huge change in how you and your lovers experience your sexuality.

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Does Penis Size Matter?

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Does Penis Size Matter?

Is my penis too big? Is my penis too small? My penis is curved, is that normal? How can I make my penis bigger? Help my penis is shrinking!

These are just some of the emails we get every single day. Men have so much anxiety about their penis size, shape and appearance – and all of that anxiety creates a big distraction from the real goal of becoming a better lover and experiencing more pleasure.

In this episode, we tackle the penis size question from many angles, addressing all the questions that men worry about when it comes to their penis size.

If you’ve ever had a worry about penis size, this is a must-listen episode!

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Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Foreplay Mastery Course

Couples Massage Mastery Course

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Penis

Male genitals come in all shapes and sizes – and the size of the penis does not indicate how much pleasure is possible.

The head of the penis is highly sensitive, with about 6000 nerve endings. Uncircumcised men have a foreskin covering the head of the penis, which retracts during erection. The foreskin is extremely sensitive so if you are stimulating a man with a foreskin, pay attention to this sensitive tissue.

The area on the underside of the penis is called the frenulum – this is where the foreskin attaches to the penis. Even on circumcised men, this is a highly sensitive zone and can be stimulated to create more arousal.

The shaft of the penis is made up of erectile tissue – during arousal, this tissue fills up with blood and expands, making the penis erect. Most men experience more sexual pleasure with an erect penis, but you can stimulate a soft penis and still feel pleasure. An erection pulls the skin more taut and pushes the nerve endings closer to the skin – so touch will feel more sensitive.

 

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