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Butt Plugs! Who, What, Where, When, Why and How?

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Butt plugs are one of the most versatile types of sex toys, but not many people know about them. Here is everything you’ve ever wanted to know (and more!) about butt plugs. In this free podcast episode, we cover all the basics and more. This is a Who, What, Where, When, Why and How Episode of Speaking of Sex, so we cover all the essentials, including:

  • What is a butt plug?
  • Who are butt plugs for?
  • Where do you use butt plugs?
  • When do you use butt plugs?
  • How do you use a butt plug?
  • How can men use butt plugs?
  • How can men and women use butt plugs during sex?
  • Why do butt plugs feel good?
  • How are butt plugs different from dildos?
  • Should I buy a vibrating butt plug?

Resources Mentioned On This Episode:

How To Prepare For Anal Play

Prostate Massage Mastery Online Course

Anal Play Mastery Online Course

A Few Of Our Favorite Butt Plugs:

*Bvibe Silicone Plugs: a range of sizes, body safe silicone and friendly colors

*Njoy Stainless Steel Plugs: for those who like a heavier, harder heft

*Trainer Set: a set with several sizes so you can explore what feels best to you

* SheVibe has the largest selection of butt plugs – especially if you want something playful (a tail? some sparkle? look no further!)

 


* please note some links on this page are affiliate links, and if you choose to make a purchase we will receive a small percentage as thanks for the referral. We only link to resources we know, trust and love!

Erotic Gift Giving

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Erotic gifts can add a beautiful intimate touch to the holidays. With so much family togetherness and busy schedules, think about setting aside a little bit of time to be alone together, savor some relaxing touch and exchange gifts intended to enhance your erotic life together.

Below you’ll find some of our favorite toys for inspiration. Wrap one up with a beautiful bow, make sure to mark it Do Not Open In Front Of The Family! and express your love and commitment to another year of shared pleasure.

Sometimes the best gift is an investment in getting support. If you are struggling with an erotic roadblock, the comprehensive courses from therapist Vanessa Marin are our go-to referral for effective tools for transformation. Check out Finishing School to learn how to orgasm alone or with a partner. Our guys have loved her Modern Man’s Guide to overcoming performance anxiety and we regularly send couples to The Passion Project for tools to balance mismatched libidos.

While Vanessa Marin offers deep dives for the most common struggles, if you are already in a pretty good relational space and ready to just play more and get creative together, you can get your inbox absolutely stuffed with enticing options with her 30 Day Sex Challenge!


One of our favorite new toys of the year is Lelo’s Sona – for anyone who likes clitoral stimulation, this toy uses sonic pulses rather than vibration to stimulate deep into the body. Give her the gift of a whole new kind of stimulation!


Another new favorite is the Crescendo from MysteryVibe

This fun, flexible vibrator is defiantly NOT one size fits all – you can bend and shape it to contour just right to the pleasure zones you want to stimulate. Plus, it integrates technology in a meaningful way, allowing you to control the vibrating zones and rhythms with an app that is easy to use. It comes in a gorgeous box, ready to wrap and present to your partner (after the kids have gone to sleep!)


Want a discreet yet powerful toy to integrate into partnered play? Check out the Eva vibrator from Dame Products. This tiny powerhouse tucks right into the labia to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse – Adding a nice additional level of stimulation without a lot of bulk coming between you. Use the code MECHANICS for $15 off!


Want to add some luxury to your erotic life? Check out the affordable yet luxe line of body jewelry from Bijoux Indiscrets, a Barcelona based company that offers simple yet gorgeous ways to adorn the body. They also have a beautiful line of vegan harnesses, cuffs and body adornments.

Use the code MECHANICS20 for 20% off anything you wish!


Does your lover enjoy lots of quality touch?

Wrap up a nice massage candle and enroll in our Couples Massage Mastery online course, and give the gift of a lifetime of beautiful full body touch! If you want to give the gift of any of our Erotic Mastery Courses, use the code GIFT for 33% off! 


If your lover enjoys receiving love notes, hearing you speak loving words during sex, or is an avid reader, give the gift of an erotica anthology on audiobook. Click here to get a free book of your choice with a trial membership: Audible.com


No matter what kind of erotic play you love, everyone needs a good personal lubricant to make your touch slip, slide and glide in all the right ways. Check out our favorite organic lubricant from GoodCleanLove.com and use the code Pleasure for 33% off your entire order!


Have another toy in mind?

Start here with these links to some of our favorite sex toy companies:

Goodvibes.com : for a full selection of toys from trusted brands

Lelo.com : for luxury, high quality toys and light bondage gear

Vibrator Nation: The History Of Feminist Sex Stores with Lynn Comella Ph.D.

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Ever wonder how vibrators and sex toys became so popular? How did sex toys find their way into our bedside tables and cultural conversations?

Author Lynn Comella, Ph.D. shares the fascinating history of feminist sex toy stores and their impact on sex culture.

Nowadays, you can find lube at the drugstore and sex toys on Amazon – but we can’t forget that the availability of pleasure products is thanks to the visionaries that led the sex positive movement and created safe spaces for sex positive education and shopping.

The new book Vibrator Nation traces the history and impact of feminist sex toy stores. It traces the history back to feminist pioneers like Dell Williams, who founded Eve’s Garden in New York City in 1974 and Joani Blank, who opened the Good Vibrations retail store in San Francisco in 1977. 

These feminist sex toy stores quickly became more than a place to buy vibrators. Sex stores like Good Vibrations and Babeland became the epicenters of sex positive education, community and empowerment.

Tune in to this fascinating conversation and then grab a copy of Vibrator Nation to explore how feminist sex toys stores influenced sex culture for us all.

Check out LynnComella.com for more information about Lynn’s work and book tour dates!

Want to find a feminist sex toy store near you? Check out this map from our friend at RedheadBedhead!

Thanks to our podcast sponsors for making this episode possible: 

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A big welcome to our new sponsor Good Clean Love, who offer amazing organic lubricants and sexual wellness products. Good Clean Love’s lube is the only one we use and we highly recommend their products. Go to GoodCleanLove.com and use the code PLEASURE for 33% off your entire order! 

 

Sex Toys For Men

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Sex toys for men offer a wide range of sensations and erotic possibilities. It is time men shed the shame about using sex toys and embrace the excitement that sex toys can add to both solo and partnered sex play.

In this episode, we cover:

  • the range of sex toys for men, from masturbation sleeves to cock rings to prostate toys
  • how to talk to your partner about using sex toys
  • why men are hesitant to use sex toys
  • why sex toys for men can be a bold statement of sexual liberation
  • how to choose the right sex toy for you
  • how to get a “boner bonus”
  • where to find great sex toys for men, on and offline

Sex Toys For Men Shopping Guide

Here are some of our favorite sex toys for men, all road tested and enthusiastically recommended. These links will take you to a trusted retailer, where you can also explore other varieties and styles of sex toys for men!

You’ll find all these great toys and more at SheVibe.com

Tenga Flip Zero : our reviewer’s favorite! This reusable toy has a great variety of textures and creates a satisfying suction sensation. One guy loved the sound that this toy created.

Fleshlight Vantage : an open ended masturbation sleeve that allows you to see the head of the cock slip in and out, and also allows you to see your ejaculation. Can also be used during partnered play to enhance handjobs or oral sex.

Aneros Prostate Massagers : a great line of prostate massage toys. These are meant to be inserted and then rock against the prostate as you flex your pelvic muscles.

Loki Prostate Massager: a great vibrating prostate massager. Can also be used for g-spot play.

Lelo Cock Ring : a high quality silicone cock ring with a small vibrator built in

Other Cock Rings : explore the full range of cock rings, from stretchy silicone to shiny metal.

Here’s a bit more about how Tenga eggs work:

Shopping through these links may result in a small commission payment, which helps support the work we do here at Pleasure Mechanics- thanks!

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