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Want to add sex toys to anal sex? You are not alone! Many people use toys for solo anal sex or to enhance partnered anal sex play.

Sex toys can add variety and range to your backdoor play. But to play safely, you must use the right toys for the job. Here’s our guide to sex toy safety and links to explore our favorite toys and find your own favorites.

Anal Play Toy Safety

You can use any vibrator on the external anal area, and enjoy exploring the range of buzzy sensations you can create. But NEVER insert anything into the anus unless it is specifically designed for anal insertion. This means it will have smooth contours, be made of body safe materials and feature a flared base. If you need convincing, google “items lost in rectum” for some eye-opening images.

Unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn’t have a built in ending and the contractions of orgasm tend to pull things deeper into the rectum. So if you are interested in inserting anything other than your fingers or a penis into the anus, get toys designed just for that purpose! Here are some of our favorites, and the websites we link to carry a wide selection of toys you can explore!

Safer Sex Supplies:

Black Nitrile Gloves are way sexier than the ones you’ll find at the drugstore!

* SheVibe.com has a wide selection of condoms *

Choose a high quality water based or silicone based lube

Butt Plugs:

Butt plugs are designed to be inserted and then left in place. You can wiggle them a bit, but the real pleasure comes from the sensation of fullness they create. They can be worn during other kinds of sex play or even while you are going about your day! Start with a small butt plug and work your way up to larger sizes.

Anal Bead Like Items:

Traditional anal beads aren’t great – they used to be made of hard plastic and weren’t easy to clean. Thankfully, today’s sophisticated sex toy companies have updated this toy. These toys feature several insertables that slowly increase in size. Insert them and then (perhaps at the moment of climax!) gently tug on them for a ripple of sensation as they slide out of your body. *Check out SheVibe’s wonderful range of bead like toys here*

Prostate Massagers:

These toys are designed to hit the male prostate but can be used by anyone for fun anal penetration play. Some vibrate, others are designed for rocking manually. Check out a wide range of prostate massagers here.

Strap On Toys:

*Check out the extensive line of sexy strap on toys at SheVibe*

* please note some links on this page are affiliate links, and if you choose to make a purchase we will receive a small percentage as thanks for the referral. We only link to resources we know, trust and love!

Sexy Gift Guide

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Want the perfect sexy gift for Valentine’s Day, an anniversary or birthday? Here’s our guide on giving a gift your lover will adore – by getting clear on what they specifically like to receive. Some people want a great new sex toy. Others would prefer quality time together. For some people, nothing beats an honest love letter. For others, acts of service are the best gifts you can give.

In this podcast episode we start by reviewing Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages – a framework that helps you understand how your lover best receives love.

Then, we turn our attention to sex toys and give our top recommendations- from vibrators to BDSM toys.

Of course, one of the best gifts you can give is a lifetime of better sex. Our online courses offer you the opportunity to master new erotic skills – from Couples Massage to Foreplay to Erotic Spanking. Give a course to your lover so you can explore together or study up on your own and then surprise them with the sexy gift of your fabulous new skills!

No matter the occasion, giving a great gift is one way to express love and add romance to your relationship.

Here’s your sexy gift guide with links to the resources and toys mentioned on the episode!

Sometimes the best gift is an investment in getting support. If you are struggling with an erotic roadblock, the comprehensive courses from therapist Vanessa Marin are our go-to referral for effective tools for transformation. Check out Finishing School to learn how to orgasm alone or with a partner. Our guys have loved her Modern Man’s Guide to overcoming performance anxiety and we regularly send couples to The Passion Project for tools to balance mismatched libidos.

While Vanessa Marin offers deep dives for the most common struggles, if you are already in a pretty good relational space and ready to just play more and get creative together, you can get your inbox absolutely stuffed with enticing options with her 30 Day Sex Challenge!

Browse the curated selection of pleasure toys at SheVibe.com

Some of these links allow us to earn a small commission on toys you purchase. We never recommend anything we don’t use and love ourselves. Shopping through these links supports Pleasure Mechanics. Thanks!

Male Sex Toys

Sex toys are for everyone! From using strokers and rings to plugs and other vibrating things, more men are discovering what these toys can do. That goes for whether they want to increase their self-love or ramp up their experience with their partner, because incorporating a new toy or two can accomplish those goals.

Penis Toys

From strokers to cock rings, there are so many toys to pleasure the penis. Check out the great collection of *sex toys for penis pleasure from our friends at SheVibe.com

Prostate Toys

When you are ready to discover the pleasures of prostate stimulation, start with *a great prostate toy for solo or partnered play. Start small and work your way up in size as you build a collection.

Sex Toys and Tools

There are hundreds of high quality sex toys and tools available to experiment with.

Toys can help you create more pleasure, both solo and with your lover.

These vibrators, dildos, butt toys and prostate toys can help you stimulate new parts of your sexual anatomy, experience a wider range of sensations and play with sexuality in new ways.

Check out sites like SheVibe.com to find extensive buyer’s guides for toys that add more fun and variety to your sex life.

But remember – toys are supplements to high-quality touch, not a replacement for learning sexual techniques!

The Pleasure Mechanics Dos and Don’ts When Using Sex Toys and Tools

DO purchase toys from a reputable company that selects products based on quality and craftsmanship

DON’T purchase sex toys that are intended as “gag gifts” or “novelties”

DO spend time thinking about what kinds of sensation you want more of, and buy toys that will enhance your experience

DON’T buy toys just because they look good – ultimately, you want a toy collection that will help you have better sex, not pretty accessories.

DON’T buy toys on Amazon! The site is full of cheap knock-offs and the site doesn’t control quality. Buy from a site like SheVibe.com instead and you’ll get the real deal.

DO start small when purchasing dildos, butt plugs or anything insertable – you can always get larger sizes and work your way up

DO buy high-quality silicone toys if your budget permits. Silicone is smoother and healthier for your body than latex or vinyl.

DO consider glass dildos and wands – they won’t break and can provide a nice, weighty, smooth surface.

Where To Find Quality Sex Toys

We don’t sell sex toys – but our friends do!

SheVibe.com

A Few of our Favorite Pleasure Tools and Toys!

★ This stainless steel toy is a pound and a half of pure pleasure. One of our all time favorites – if you like the feeling of nice solid weight inside, you’ll love this tool.

★ Have you ever used a glass toy? It is NOT as scary as it first sounds. The smooth weight of the glass can feel amazing, they are beautiful works of art AND you can heat them up or cool them down to play with the sensations of temperature. Check out some beautiful glass toys here.

★ If you haven’t tried a cock ring before, you’ve GOT to try one – here is a simple one for under $10 that just might delight you.

This page may contain affiliate links, allowing our friends in the sex toy biz to support PleasureMechanics.com. We only write about and link to products that we have personally reviewed and would use ourselves! For men’s sex toys, we work with fabulous male testers and our expertise of the male body!

Am I Addicted to My Vibrator?

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Can you get addicted to your vibrator?

Do vibrators cause numbness and desensitization of the clitoris or other sensitive tissues?

We tackle this tricky topic as we answer the question of a woman who can’t seem to orgasm without her vibrator.

We offer tips and strategies to regain sensitivity and learn how to achieve orgasm from different kinds of stimulation.

Hooked on the Hitachi Magic Wand? You aren’t alone, and there is a way to unplug and gain more sensitivity!

Pleasure tools and sex toys are great – but if you want strategies for developing new pleasure pathways and sensitizing your body to new kinds of touch, here is some guidance!