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Expressing gratitude is one of the simplest ways to improve your sex life – but very few of us do it often enough! In this episode we explore how to practice gratitude in your relationship and why it makes such a big difference.
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If you aren’t in the mood for sex with your partner, but still masturbate frequently, does it count as cheating? What does it mean when masturbation is more desirable than sex?
We explore these questions and also give advice on how to stay connected to your lover when going through a stressful time or a dry spell.
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Anal stimulation can feel amazing and be part of highly orgasmic sex. But many women avoid it because they have had painful experiences in the past, or they are afraid it will hurt.
Here’s how to make it incredibly pleasurable and pain free so she can learn to love it!
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Do you ever feel like you are stuck in a rut during lovemaking?
Routines are simply not very sexy, and with good reason. Our human brains adapt to any kind of repeated stimulation, focusing less attention on what is familiar to free up bandwidth to detect new and surprising stimulation.
This information is valuable in two ways. First, when you are touching your lover it is important to use both repetition and variety to create as much pleasure as possible. Repeating the strokes your lover likes best creates a steady build of arousal, but without an occasional surprise their body will tune out eventually.
The same is true in the bigger picture of your relationship. If you make love in the same way over and over again, boredom and numbness will set in. Intimacy will become less thrilling, less exciting and eventually you’ll tune out all together.
The solution? Seek novelty. This doesn’t mean you have to become a swinger or have an open relationship! Our erotic brains like novelty of all kinds. Any new experience you share with your lover will release dopamine in your brain, creating a thrill and the satisfaction of experiencing something new. Travel is one of the best ways to create novelty. Another easy way to tap into novelty is to do something new together, like taking a dance class. You get bonus points for anything that is a little risky or dangerous.
You can also apply the rule of novelty to your lovemaking. If you find yourself in a rut, make sure to focus on shaking things up by trying new activities, tapping into a variety of erotic energies and never doing it quite the same way twice in a row! Even small changes can make a big difference in how you feel about the sex you are having.
This week’s podcast is dedicated to strategies to get out of ruts. We heard from a member of our community who has been in a 10 year rut that is driving him crazy, but his wife isn’t willing to change things up. Tune in to hear our advice for getting out of the scripts and routines that are making his love life a bore.
All great sex has one thing in common: it is entirely consensual. Consent means fully participating in the sex you are having, without any pressure or coercion. Hopefully, consent is enthusiastic and passionate. If you have any doubts that your erotic partner is not fully consenting to the sex you are having, take a moment to check in or stop what you are doing!
Here are some great resources about erotic consent: