Pleasure Mechanics

Romance

What feels most romantic, to you? What would a more romantic relationship look and feel like? How do you want to get more romantic? When thinking about romance, it is essential that we get off script about romance and start getting specific about what feels most romantic to us as individual erotic beings, at this stage in our life.

Here are curated resources for you to explore romance, getting more romantic, making sex more romantic, and experiencing more romance in your life.

Resources On Romance and Romantic Relationships

Our #1 recommendation if you are ready to deepen your experience of intimacy and relationship is our friend and mentor Dr. Alexandra Solomon’s online course, INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 101. We are enrolled students and this course has both guided us through a tough season and deepened our relational skills and experience of romance – even after 15 years as erotic educators! We can’t recommend this course highly enough! This course is a deep dive and will give you a comprehensive foundation in the skills of relational and sexual self-awareness— the skills you need to create a thriving and healthy intimate partnership. Enroll in INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 101 here.

Speaking of Sex Episodes About Romance, Romantic Sex & Love Languages

Too Ticklish To Touch?

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Are you or your partner too ticklish to touch? When you try to relax into massage, do you instead feel jittery, anxious, nervous or ticklish? Do you tend to get overwhelmed when trying to get aroused? If any of this feels familiar, this episode is for you! No one is “too ticklish to touch” no matter how persistent this experience is, there are strategies to guide the body into relaxing into touch and arousal.

In this episode we share ways to talk about being too ticklish to touch, how to create a more supportive touch environment and share lots of professional touch strategies to overcome feeling too ticklish to touch! Learn how to slow down, sink in and relax into touch and arousal.

Ready to learn the art of erotic touch, head to toe? Get started tonight from the comfort of your own home with our online courses.

We have been teaching the art of erotic touch since 2006 and believe learning full body couples massage is one of the best investments you can make in your erotic life and overall relationship wellbeing.

We’ve taught tens of thousands of lovers how to touch with more skill & confidence. Are you next?

Ready to master the art of erotic touch and lavish your lover with pleasure?

Click here to enroll in Erotic Touch Mastery, our two bestselling courses in one bundle!

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Cannabis, Pleasure & Connection with Shango Los

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In this episode we are in conversation with Shango Los, host of the Shaping Fire podcast, about the connections between cannabis, pleasure and erotic intimacy.

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We explore the relationship between cannabis and pleasure, and how we humans can deepen our connection with the plant itself, and with one another by partaking in the plant together.

Cannabis is a generous plant that brings humans pleasure, relief, joy and connection in so many forms – as well as offering highly useful fibers, a nourishing food source and so many other benevolent offerings. For tens of thousands of years humans have been in relationship with this plant in ways that span the sacramental, medicinal and recreational arenas of human culture.

No matter your current relationship with cannabis, this episode will offer information, insight and inspiration on how we can deepen our pleasurable connection to this powerful plant.

Explore more with Shango Los

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Troublesome Turn-Ons

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In this interview with sex therapist and podcast host Nicoletta Heidegger, we explore the terrain of troublesome turn-ons – when what we desire also causes us distress, worry or is perhaps illegal or even impossible to fulfill. Troublesome Turn-Ons are the desires that not only excite us, but cause anxiety, fear, shame, guilt or concern we will act out or cause harm.

In this episode we explore how to turn towards our troublesome turn-ons with more self-compassion, understanding of the human sexual spectrum, and tools to differentiate between fantasy and desire.

Troublesome Turn-Ons is a term coined by the late and great sexologist Dr. Jack Morin in his book The Erotic Mind. He shared the insight that most of what people self-experience as Troublesome Turn-Ons are actually quite common sexual fantasies within the range of normal human sexual expression, and reminds us to examine the assumptions and cultural norms behind the taboos to slay shame and gain more freedom – even as we may choose to enjoy the erotic charge of the taboo! Morin reminds us that we don’t need to give up the thrill of the profane and illicit, but we can shed the anxiety and self-judgment that may burden us and get in the way of pleasure and connection.

Explore more with Nicoletta at NicolettavHeidegger.com and tune into the SlutsAndScholars.com podcast, starting with the Pleasure Mechanics interview about Sexological Bodywork

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Igniting Erotic Touch

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Ignite your erotic touch skills, activate your hands during sex and uplevel every aspect of your sex life! Every erotic experience can be made more pleasurable by the simple act of bringing in more touch – using your hands to touch every inch of your lover’s body, especially during high arousal acts like oral sex or intercourse. How do you use your hands during sex? Ready to ignite your erotic touch skills? Tune into this free podcast episode to discover how.

We’ve taught tens of thousands of lovers how to touch with more skill & confidence. Are you next?

Ready to master the art of erotic touch and lavish your lover with pleasure?

Click here to enroll in Erotic Touch Mastery, our two bestselling courses in one bundle!

Speaking Of Sex Podcast Series on Touch

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