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How To Surrender Into Orgasm

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We hear from a lot of women who have trouble reaching orgasm, either alone or with a partner. Many of these women can build lots of arousal but never quite achieve orgasm. What’s the secret? Learning how to focus on pleasurable sensation while relaxing and then surrendering into orgasm. Easier said than done, so in this podcast episode (hit the play button above to listen for free!) we give strategic advice for learning how to surrender into orgasm.

This podcast features a passage from the book The Multi-Orgasmic Woman.

Co-written by Mantak Chia, the leading expert in the field of Taoist sexuality, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D., a family practice physician specializing in women’s health and sexuality, The Multi-Orgasmic Woman combines ancient Taoist practices with current sexual information. It offers a complex system of both physical practices and energy work to create more vitality in the female sexual system.

They propose a five step path to orgasm. The first four steps are focusing your intention, strengthening your pelvic muscles, kindling your sexual energy and exploring your pleasure anatomy. This week we focus on the fifth step, surrendering into orgasm.

Check out the complete book The Multi-Orgasmic Woman

Aphrodisiacs

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What Are Aphrodisiacs?

Chocolate, Asparagus, Horny Goat Weed…

Oysters, Ginseng, Rhino Horn…

Are these the tools of Aphrodite?

Aphrodisiacs are foods and herbs meant to increase libido and enhance sexual performance.

The word Aphrodisiac comes from the goddess of love and sexuality, Aphrodite.

All cultures around the world and throughout time celebrate certain foods or herbs as aphrodisiacs.

Some are considered aphrodisiacs because they make your heart race, like spicy peppers.

Some foods look a lot like genitals, so were associated with eroticism, like the very phallic asparagus or the seductive pomegranate.

Others foods were considered seductive because they are are rare and precious, such as truffles or chocolate.

Other aphrodisiac foods provided rare nutrients and thus boosted health, such as zinc rich oysters. Looking back in time, it is easy to see the many reasons certain foods were revered and associated with eroticism.

Do Aphrodisiacs Actually Work?

But are there aphrodisiacs that actually work? Hit “play” on the podcast player above to hear our take on the aphrodisiacs that will really work for you over time – and to find out which ones to avoid.

Want more on romance and seduction? Don’t miss episodes 74 and 75!

Cliteracy

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Cliteracy is an art project designed to educate and inspire people about the majesty of the clitoris. Sophia Wallace combines street art, sculpture, textiles and typography to educate and get people literate about the clitoris.

In a world where attention is scarce having projects that are both educational and entertaining – creating edutainment is often a great way of getting people’s attention.

She made an enormous gold statue of a the structure of the clitoris and set up a clit rodeo, where people rode this massive clit like a bull.

She also collaborated with several rap artists to create a rap battle of the clit vs. the penis.

One of her main projects is making posters of “the 100 natural laws of the clitoris.” She also posts some of this info as street art in New York City as if she was doing an advertising campaign for the clitoris.

Some of the points she is highlighting are around the anatomy of the clitoris. If you listen to our podcast regularly you may already be aware of many of the facts about the clitoris. It is awesome to see that most of the info Wallace is spreading through her art about the clitoris is information we regularly share on our podcasts. You are probably already more cliterate than the average person.

  • Wallace mentions that in 1969 we put the man on the moon and in 1982 we invented the internet but it wasn’t until 1998 that we discovered the full anatomy of the clitoris.
  • If you know the anatomy of the clitoris well it can take just 4 minutes to create orgasm, which is the time many women take to reach orgasm during masturbation.
  • The small button like structure we think of when we think of the clitoris is not the whole deal! It is in fact more like an iceberg, with the tip being what we can see. The internal structure of the clitoris is about as big as the penis and goes deep within the body.
  • The clitoris has 2-3 times the nerve endings of the penis. The clitoris is the anatomical equivalent of the penis. We know that it would be inconceivable to have a sexual experience for men without using the penis, so let us treat the clitoris in the same way and be sure to include it as an essential part of your lovemaking in every sexual encounter.
  • As a visual artist she is also highlighting the shape of the anatomy of the clitoris which is kind of awesome to see, it’s like a wishbone but with bonus parts. The Huffington post made a video where they stopped people on the street to try and identify the penis’s and clitoral anatomy and everyone correctly identified the penis, and only one person out of many was able to identify the clitoris.

Check out the resources below and then have conversations with people in your life about the clitoris, and help make the world a more cliterate place!

Sophia Wallace and The Cliteracy Project

The Huffington Post On Cliteracy

Animated Anatomy Of The Clitoris from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.

Clit vs. Penis: A Rap Battle from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.

The Clit Quiz from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.

 

Wife Spanking: Pleasure Or Punishment?

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Hundreds of couples have discovered the thrills of erotic spanking with our Erotic Spanking Mastery Course. Beyond the immediate benefits of thrilling sex, many find that there are unexpected benefits to their relationship.

We recently received an email from a happy member of the Erotic Spanking Course:

Hi Ladies,

Your course on Erotic Spanking has worked wonders for my sex life. My wife loves it, she can’t seem to get it enough. Most of the time it isn’t followed by sex, she just enjoys it. One unexpected thing that came from the course is that it has changed our marriage in many ways. She used to be very argumentative and pick fights with me, now she doesn’t. She also used to challenge me on so many things; now, not so much. I’m not totally sure if the spankings are the reason behind our more peaceful home life, but it is the only recent change in our relationship that I can point to. What are your thoughts? Thanks!

Peace,

Sean

After this podcast aired, we heard back from Sean:

Hello Chris,

Thanks for answering my question. I’m glad it inspired a good discussion! My wife listened to your podcast after I did and she half jokingly said that maybe spanking actually did ‘correct’ her behavior. This of course was never the intention. (I think this goes without saying but it never hurts to add.) I definitely think there is a lot that is accurate about your comments. I appreciate how you both thoroughly made the distinction between erotic spanking and punishment. We are Christians (Catholics, actually) and we find the idea of ‘Christian’ domestic discipline so abusive.
To answer your question, I did end up speaking to my wife about how our relationship changed since I started spanking her. She has always had control issues, so if I ever took the lead on something she used to always challenge me or pick fights. It was like she couldn’t relax unless she was in control. So when I got her to let me take complete control with these spankings and she received so much pleasure from it, she began to be to be more relaxed about other aspects in our life. And over time when I started to become more confident with the spanking she started seeing me as a stronger man she can trust more with taking the lead sometimes. It allowed her be more ‘submissive’ (I’m not sure if that is the right word to describe it but it’s the first word that comes to mind). Again to reiterate: her and I are complete equals as far as I’m concerned and I certainly don’t think I has any authority over her.
Thanks again for answering my question! Have an awesome day!
Peace,
Sean

Hit the play button at the top of this page to hear our take on why erotic spanking has created marital harmony for this couple. We discuss the unexpected benefits of erotic spanking that can totally transform your life. We also talk about why some couples pick fights with one another when really what they need is more intense sex and the opportunity to dominate one another in the bedroom.

Erotic spanking may be exactly what your marriage needs! Here are our rules for Wife Spanking to make sure it strengthens your relationship and does not create marital meltdown!

Wife Spanking Rule #1: Always For Pleasure

All of the erotic techniques we offer here at Pleasure Mechanics are designed so you can have an orgasmic sex life and loving relationship. Wife spanking is no exception to this rule. Erotic spanking can be incredibly pleasurable, arousing and even romantic. It never has to hurt (even when it gets intense!) and should always leave you feeling relaxed and flooded with pleasure.

Wife Spanking Rule #2: Never For Punishment

Spanking your wife should never be a punishment or a way to control her behavior.

Do not spank your wife as punish for real world infringements. This can quickly create resent and ruin your relationship.

Do not spank without the erotic context and active consent, this is just abuse!

Wife Spanking Rule #3: Get Specific

Does your wife want to be spanked with lots of sensuality and romance? Or does she want a firm, hard spanking followed by rough sex?

Her desires may change day to day, so always ask her about what she specifically wants before you start any erotic spanking session.

Wife Spanking Rule #4: Always Warm Up

In our Erotic Spanking Mastery Course, we show you how to create a slow, steady warm up that allows the body to release endorphins. These natural pain killers allow your wife to literally get high on sensation!

With a slow warm up, she will be ready for harder spanks and they will feel intense but not painful. Each blow will create a peak of sensation and then quickly melt into delicious pleasurable release.

Wife Spanking Rule #5: Tears Can Be Cathartic

Spanking can create much needed emotional and physical catharsis (a purging release of built up tension) so if your wife tears up, don’t stop suddenly.

If you are unsure you can check in by asking “Would you like me to continue?” or say “I’m going to continue until you use your safeword. Let it all go, I love you.” With these words you are giving her permission to relax and release as you continue to spank. Many people find this kind of catharsis very cleansing.

Wife Spanking Rule #6: Being Dominant Does Not Give You Authority

Playing with power in the bedroom can be a great way to explore new erotic terrain and create thrills and excitement. But being dominant during sex does not give you authority over your wife outside of the bedroom.

Consensual erotic power play can only exist between two equal individuals. In all areas of your relationship, create balance and mutual respect. This creates the trust to enjoy power play in your sex life.

Wife Spanking Rule #7: Erotic Spanking is NOT Christian Domestic Discipline

See rules #1 through #6!

Sharing an erotic spanking experience is not the same thing as using spanking to discipline your wife, change her behavior or punish her for sins. Christian Domestic Discipline follows very different guidelines than Erotic Spanking, and the two should never be confused!

Wife Spanking Rule #8: Spanking Isn’t Just For Wives!

Men love to get spanked too! Imagine being over your wife’s knee, your body ready for her touch, quivering with anticipation. Spanking sends pleasurable vibrations through the male pelvis and straight to the penis, so many guys find it incredibly arousing. It can pair well with handjobs and other forms of sex play, so let your imagination run wild. Getting spanked doesn’t make you any less of a man – in fact you may just find it makes you feel wildly masculine and powerful!

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Kink and BDSM are now mainstream topics of conversation, and more couples than ever are exploring the kinky side of life.

We know that kinky play can reinvigorate your love life, bring you new levels of satisfaction and allow you to express yourself more fully. When done with the right skills, kink can open up a vast terrain of pleasure and fun for any couple.

If you are ready to explore erotic spanking, join our Erotic Spanking Mastery Course for immediate access to everything you need to know to enjoy the thrills of spanking in your marriage. You’ll master the skills of spanking your wife while minimizing the risks. Enroll now and start your erotic adventure tonight!