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The Unslut Project

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The Unslut Project: Interview with Emily Lindin: Free Podcast Episode

In this raw interview, Chris speaks with Emily Linden of The Unslut Project.

They cover:

  • The difference between sexual bullying and slut shaming
  • How and why sexual bullying can haunt you for years
  • How to talk to young ones about sexual bullying
  • The ancient roots and modern guises of slut shaming
  • How you can help end slut shaming

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The Origin Of Sex Law

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The Origin Of Sex Laws: Free Podcast EpisodeEver wondered about the origins of sex-negative culture?

Were there really guys sitting around room making up laws that punished sexual deviance?

What was the involvement of the church in sexual oppression?

If you’ve ever asked these kinds of questions, you too are curious about the history of sex.

We are fascinated by tracking the history of sex culture. Just when did these intergenerational patterns of sexual shame and fear begin?

We love finding books like Sex and Punishment, and the only thing we love more is sharing them with you!

On this podcast, Chris discusses one of the first recorded histories of sex-negative law.  Is this where our thousands of years of sexual shaming originated? Tune in to find out just how extreme sex negative law was in 2000 B.C.

“All ancient civilizations were intent on controlling people’s sex lives. THe oldest extant written law, which hails from the early Sumerian kingdom of Ur-Nammu (circa 2100 BC), devoted quite a bit of attention to sexual matters. One of the earliest capital punishment laws on record anywhere concerned adultery.”

“Ancient societies influenced each other, and the laws of one group often were adopted by its enemies and then developed further. AS centuries passed, for example, the elementary sexual prohibitions of Sumerian kingdoms like Ur-Nammu evolved into the obsessively detailed rules of the Hebrews, which in turn became the foundation for the sex laws of the church and every Christian state.”

Sex and Punishment: Four Thousand Years Of Judging Desire by Eric Berkowitz

Nipple Play

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Nipple Play: How To: Free Podcast EpisodeThe breasts have a high concentration of nerve endings, especially in the nipples. The underside of the nipple has the densest concentration of nerve endings in the entire breast. During arousal, the breasts swell and become more sensitive, and nipples may harden and in some cases grow substantially in size. When fully aroused, some women find that the nipples are so sensitive that even small touches can feel quite intense.

Why Does Nipple Play Feel So Tricky?

Many women experience a spectrum of sensitivity that can change dramatically. Breast sensitivity may change year to year (many women report an increase of sensitivity late in their 20’s and into mid-life), week to week (most women report more sensitive breasts during ovulation and menstruation), and even moment to moment, depending on stimulation, arousal, and even temperature.

To maximize the pleasure potential of the breasts, a woman and her lover must pay attention to the cycles of sensitivity and learn how to respond and adjust nipple play according to just how sensitive they are feeling in any given moment. This kind of awareness is a useful skill to become a better lover overall, and there is no better place to develop this skill than with sensual breast massage. The breasts are a central part of sexual anatomy, and nipple play offers big potential for spiking a woman’s arousal.

Nipple Play Golden Rules

  • Start with broad, relaxing touch. Touch the entire chest area and her whole body before starting nipple play!
  • When it comes to nipple play, sometimes less is more. Start with gentle pressure and slowly increase pressure and intensity.
  • Never go right for the nipple, as tempting as it is. Nipple play is all about building anticipation by approaching the skin around the nipple, then backing away. Tease it out!
  • Use your fingertips, fingers, lips and tongue to explore nipple play. There is no end to the nuances of sensation you can create. We show you all of our proven techniques in the Foreplay Mastery Course.

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Need To Feel Loved? Here’s How

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Need To Feel More Loved? Here's How

Barbara Fredrickson has been researching love for over twenty years. Her book Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do and Become presents the idea that our idea of love needs a massive upgrade.

He research shows that love is not exclusive, unconditional or long lasting. Instead, love “is best measured in seconds or minutes, not months or years.” And though love is fleeting, it is also endlessly renewable.

“Although you may subscribe to a whole host of definitions of love, your body subscribes to just one: Love is that micro-moment of warmth and connection that you share with another living being.”


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Nuru Massage

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What Is Nuru Massage?

Nuru massage is a Japanese massage technique using a slippery gel made out of seaweed extract to create slippery body-to-body contact. During a nuru massage, both partners are usually naked and the entire body is used to glide, slide and stroke along the recipient’s body.

Can I Do Nuru Massage At Home?

Yes! Nuru massage can be a fun and sexy adventure for you to try at home. We recommend using coconut or almond oil instead of nuru massage gel. It is easier to get your hands on, cleaner and better for your most sensitive tissues. Some people report an allergic reaction to nuru massage gel. Coconut oil smells great, is excellent for your skin and gives a great smooth glide. Remember, oil is not compatible with latex, so don’t rely on condoms after using massage oil on the rest of your body!

Is Nuru Massage Messy?

Nuru massage can be very messy. When you get a nuru massage kit, it includes a big plastic sheet to roll around on! If you find it arousing to make your bedroom into an adult slip n’ slide, go for it. We recommend skipping the nuru massage kit and using oil and flannel sheets instead. Buy a set of cheap flannel sheets that you use just for massage so you don’t have to worry about staining your nice sheets. Use just enough oil to create a good slick glide between your bodies.

How Do I Do Nuru Massage?

Once you are oiled up, simply explore dragging and gliding your body across your lover’s skin. Here are some nuru massage tips:

  • Use your arms to support your body weight as you glide to create lighter sensations.
  • Release more body weight into your lover’s body to create deeper pressure.
  • Emphasize your breasts and nipples as they drag up and down your lover’s skin.
  • Add in little love bites as you glide (coconut oil is edible!)
  • Explore gliding up and down both sides of your lover’s body.
  • Tease your partner by gliding everywhere but the genitals, until you have built up lots of anticipation. Then start gliding across your lover’s most sensitive parts.

What Do I Need To Get Started With Nuru Massage?

  • Listen to the podcast to get more tips and strategies (hit the play button at the top of the page)
  • Coconut oil (available in most health & grocery stores, but by far the best price can be found at Thrive Market- get it here)
  • Flannel sheets to protect your bed

How Do I Make Nuru Massage Sexy?

  • Use Nuru massage as a long, extended tease. Slowly build up your lover’s desire.
  • Start with full body couple’s massage to relax out stress and ease into a more seductive nuru massage experience.
  • Once you have stimulated your lover with full body-to-body contact, transition into an erotic massage. Use your hands to create stunning full body orgasms. Find out how in the Foreplay Mastery Course.
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