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Glimmers and Sparks – Coming Home To Pleasure

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If triggers are the cues that send our body into stress and survival mode, glimmers are the antidote. Glimmers are our invitations back home into a state of calm, safe social belonging. Glimmers are moments that remind us to return to pleasure, rest, calm and connection – no matter how big the storm around us. Glimmers are cues of safety, and thus as different for each of us as trauma triggers are to survivors.

To explore your Glimmers, think about where you have felt most safe, held and connected in your life. What does it feel like to feel safe? What are the sensations, emotions and embodied experiences you associate with safe social connection?

In this episode, we explore Glimmers – a term coined by Passionate Polyvagalist Deb Dana – and invite you to explore your own Glimmers as opportunities to shift back into the realm of pleasure, relaxation and joy.

We also push the idea of Glimmers into new territory by proposing Sparks – bigger embers of erotic wanting that, when captured and savored, can pivot our embodied experience in a quicker blaze! Sparks are erotic ideas, thoughts, memories, sensations and yearnings that when given space to burn move your entire being into the sensations of not only safety but wanting. Not only belonging but also craving.

Glimmers are the twinkles on the horizon that remind us who we are, where we belong and what our bodies love – it is up to us to move towards them and actively practice returning to the state of calm, relaxed awareness. This is the physical state where more pleasure, joy and connection are possible, and where our erotic beings can thrive.

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Managing Trauma Triggers

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In this episode we speak with Jamila Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin, authors of the new book With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships.

We cover the basics of what trauma is, the lifelong impact of trauma, how trauma disrupts our safety and social belonging, what triggers are (and are not!) and how we can all develop strategies to manage our triggers and trauma so we can live well, enjoy a vibrant sex life and deepen in all of our relationships.

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Designing The Ultimate Handjob Machine

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What does it take to design the ultimate handjob machine? Can a device really deliver smooth satisfying strokes? How can we keep the Sex in SexTech? In this special episode of Speaking of Sex, we speak to Jens Petter Wilhelmsen, founder of the company behind The Handy, the world’s most innovative and satisfying stroking device.

In this episode we cover what it takes to design a pleasure tool that truly delivers effective stimulation, while accounting for the wide range of human bodies and desires. We focus in on the values of inclusion, versatility and adaptability as core design tenets behind The Handy’s success as a powerful pleasure machine.

Skeptical about a stroking robot? We were too, until we tried it. We were so impressed by the quality, versatility and effectiveness of this toy that we have named it our very first “Designed For Pleasure” Pleasure Mechanics seal of approval.

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Thanks to TheHandy and DipSeaStories for being part of #TeamPleasure and supporting our mission here at Pleasure Mechanics! Explore all of our partners in pleasure here.

Sex Toys & Pleasure Tools

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Sex toys and pleasure tools range from simple devices to elaborate machines, from mild to wild, from tools to assist in comfort and reduce pain to toys that create extraordinary sensations – the world of pleasure tools is boundless! In this episode we invite you to explore the wide world of pleasure tools, clear up myths about sex toys and invite you to explore the specific toys and tools that will work best for what you want to experience.

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Keep It Warm, So It Is Easier To Get Hot

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Want a hotter sex life? Then keep it warm, so it is easier to get hot!

In this episode, we explore how to “warm up” to eroticism in your daily life, so you can experience more warmth and vitality, enjoy more pleasure and connection – and, when the time is right, get hot and experience yourself set aflame!

We cover warming up your erotic context, finding the solo warm up practices that work best for you, and how to warm one another up for each erotic encounter.

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