Pleasure Mechanics

Penis

Male genitals come in all shapes and sizes – and the size of the penis does not indicate how much pleasure is possible.

The head of the penis is highly sensitive, with about 6000 nerve endings. Uncircumcised men have a foreskin covering the head of the penis, which retracts during erection. The foreskin is extremely sensitive so if you are stimulating a man with a foreskin, pay attention to this sensitive tissue.

The area on the underside of the penis is called the frenulum – this is where the foreskin attaches to the penis. Even on circumcised men, this is a highly sensitive zone and can be stimulated to create more arousal.

The shaft of the penis is made up of erectile tissue – during arousal, this tissue fills up with blood and expands, making the penis erect. Most men experience more sexual pleasure with an erect penis, but you can stimulate a soft penis and still feel pleasure. An erection pulls the skin more taut and pushes the nerve endings closer to the skin – so touch will feel more sensitive.

 

Perineum

The perineum is the central part of the pelvic floor, in between the genitals and the anus. This area is an often overlooked part of the sexual system. It is an intersection of pelvic muscles, with a dense concentration of blood vessels and nerve endings. For both the male and female sexual system, the perineum is a crucial zone that should not be ignored during erotic play.

Deep and penetrating touch at the perineum relaxes the muscles of the pelvis and encourages blood flow into the genitals. Try exploring the perineal area while pleasuring your lover’s genitals with your hands or mouth.

The perineum is also the sweet spot for external prostate massage on men.

Anus

The anus is part of both the male and female sexual system. The external anal sphincter is one of the most sensitive parts of the human body, with one of the densest concentrations of nerve endings. You can get a lot of pleasure out of external anal stimulation without ever going inside. If you do try anal penetration, you’ll find the internal anal sphincter. This muscle is involuntary and only relaxes when the body wants to open up – this is why you can’t rush anal sex. Through external touch and arousal, the internal sphincter begins to relax and open, giving way to the rectum. Internal anal stimulation is pleasurable for the sense of pressure and fullness it creates. Internal stimulation can also reach the clitoris and the root of the penis from inside – adding another layer of pleasure.

Anal sex can range from very light external stimulation all the way up to full penetration. Your experience is up to you to decide – if you are curious about including anal play in your sex life, start with our Guide to Anal Play for Women and our Guide to Prostate Massage for men. You’ll learn everything you need to know to enjoy highly pleasurable anal stimulation and add anal sensation to the sex you already enjoy.

Priapism

Priapism is a medical condition, in which the erect penis or clitoris does not return to its flaccid state, despite the absence of both physical and psychological stimulation, within four hours. Priapism is considered a medical emergency, which should receive medical treatment Early treatment can be crucial for a full recovery with full sexual function.

How long is too long to be hard? The duration of a normal erection before it is classifiable as priapism is still controversial. Ongoing penile erections for more than 6 hours can be classified as priapism.

Priaprism should not be confused with prolonged erections and sustained arousal attained through sexual techniques such as ejaculation control. Erections naturally have some ebb and flow, the hardness changing over the course of arousal, especially if arousal is maintained for hours.

The name comes from the Greek god Priapus, a fertility god often represented with a disproportionately large and permanent erection.

Exercises for Pelvic Floor

The pelvic floor muscles are an essential part of both the male and female sexual system. For maximum sexual pleasure and optimum sexual function, the pelvic muscles must be both strong and relaxed. Many of us have chronic tension in the pelvic muscles – butt massage is a great way to release pelvic tension and increase blood flow to the genitals. Once you have relaxed the chronic tension, you can begin exercising and strengthening the pelvic floor muscles.

Exercises for Women: Kegels, Clenches, Flutters and More

Exercises for Men: Kegels, Lifts, Thrusting and More