Pleasure Mechanics

Withholding Touch From Your Lover

“Withholding pleasurable touch is a kind of punishment. Our bodies have developed to seek out that which sustains us (pleasure) and avoid that which threatens us (pain). We are a population of touch starved individuals, trying not to look desperate and trying to achieve some quality of life in spite of ourselves. Touch needs are often confused with sex drive – and many people find that when they are receiving loving touch their desperate need for sex is minimized and they can make healthier sexual choices.”

I came across this piece of writing today – from my late great massage teacher Chester Mainard. Chester taught me so much about the importance of massage as a vehicle for communicating love. All of the work we do is designed to teach men and women around the world how to touch with more skill and confidence – so touch becomes a second language for communicating love and affection.

We hope our videos inspire you to share more touch with those you love, and that your quality of life increases dramatically!

Are You Suffering From Touch Starvation?

As human beings, touch is an essential biological need. Babies will die if they are not touched – this has been well documented in cases of neglect, specifically in orphanages. As adults, studies have shown that going for long periods of time without human contact can lead to anxiety disorders, depression, heart disease and other health problems.

While it never gets that extreme for most people – many of us do suffer from touch starvation. In this culture in particular, we don’t touch one another very often. Handshakes are about all we get from anyone other than close friends and lovers. Many friends hardly hug one another, let alone cuddle up on the couch together.

We believe that for those of us who have a lover, it is great to deliberately choose to shower one another with affectionate touch. Massage gives you a toolbox of ways of touching one another pleasurably – so the smallest of moments, like standing in line at a grocery store, can be filled with a moment of quality touch – a hand resting on the small of your back, for example. Touch is a language – one that you can use to communicate with your loved ones. Learn with our massage video guides so you can touch your lover’s entire body with skill and confidence.

Massage Candle Round-Up!

We believe that learning to share massage with your lover is the best possible investment in your intimate life. A few simple touch skills can create a lifetime of more pleasure, deeper relaxation and intimate connection with your partner. Our online course is designed to teach you how to share pleasurable couples massage at home, any time you choose. Check out Couples Massage Mastery and get started tonight!

One of the things we love most about massage is that it is a free, low-tech source of pleasure. You don’t need anything other than a little coconut or almond oil to enjoy the full body benefits of receiving massage. Even a partner is optional – many of our massage techniques can be enjoyed as self-massage for a few soothing minutes of self-care.

So when we find a tool that makes massage even more pleasurable, we pay attention. Massage candles are one of our favorite tools for making at home massage feel as luxurious and indulgent as a spa massage.

Massage candles are made out of a blend of natural oils and soy wax. As they burn, the wax melts into a delicious pool of perfectly warmed massage oil, ready to be dripped onto your lover’s skin and massaged in with long delicious strokes. The warmth of the oil, the exotic scents and the flickering candlelight are the perfect combination of sensory pleasure, creating a rich and memorable experience with very little effort or expense.

We also love using massage candles as a communication tool: leave one by your lover’s pillow with a book of matches, and you send a clear signal that you are ready to connect and find time to be intimate.

Massage candles have become a popular sensual tool over the past ten years, so there is now a wide range of style and scents to choose from.

Ultimately, you should choose the massage candle that meets your budget, and a scent you love in the bedroom. Find your favorite massage candle from the curated selection at SheVibe.com

Couples Massage Workshops

Do you want more massage in your life?

Would you like to learn the insider secrets of massage pros?

Do you want to experience more pleasure, connection and passion in your relationship?

Master the art of massage at home with your partner with the Couples Massage Mastery Online Course.

Massage is a powerful and effective way to communicate love and affection. Receiving quality touch leaves you feeling loved, cherished and nourished. Sharing massage at home with your lover is the perfect way to stay connected and experience the pleasure of touch every day.

Massage keeps your physical relationship “warm” so it is easier to get “hot” – by releasing stress, massage creates more opportunities to get aroused and enjoy the full potential of lovemaking.

Scientific studies confirm that touch has powerful health benefits, improves relationships and is essential for humans to survive and thrive.

In this culture, your lover is probably your primary – or only- source of physical touch. Yet very few of us are trained in the art and skill of massage, or can confidently offer our partner full body touch for relaxation and pleasure.

Many couples go weeks, months or years without sharing quality touch. Other relationships get into physical ruts, and intimacy becomes less exciting. Even lovers with fabulous and satisfying sex lives can benefit from learning new ways to touch one another.

Massage offers powerful benefits to all relationships. Massage is an easy, low-pressure way to feed your physical love relationship and strengthen your ability to relax and experience pleasure together.

Join us for an online course in full body massage, designed especially for couples. We have distilled our hundreds of hours of massage training and years of experience as sex educators into simple, easy to learn skills for expressing your love through touch.

Learn an effective massage sequence, covering the entire body, that you can offer as five minute massage quickies or combine to lavish one another in an hour-long full body massage experience. We believe that sharing five or ten minutes of massage a day can offer dramatic benefits to your body and relationship.

In this online course you will:

  • Learn Five Minute Massage Sequences for Five Key Areas: Neck and Shoulders, Back, Butt, Arms and Hands, Legs and Feet
  • Discover the Potent Health Benefits of Pleasurable Touch
  • Learn How To Comfortably Offer Massage Without Wearing Out Your Hands or Body
  • Understand How Massage Can Expand Your Foreplay and Dramatically Improve Your Lovemaking
  • Both Give and Receive Pleasurable Massage, in Easily Learned and Memorable Sequences
  • Learn How To Bring the Grace and Ease of Massage to Your Daily Touch

Everyone can learn to give a great massage! Start sharing the pleasures of massage tonight with our Couples Massage Mastery Online Course