Pleasure Mechanics

How To Surrender Into Orgasm

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We hear from a lot of women who have trouble reaching orgasm, either alone or with a partner. Many of these women can build lots of arousal but never quite achieve orgasm. What’s the secret? Learning how to focus on pleasurable sensation while relaxing and then surrendering into orgasm. Easier said than done, so in this podcast episode (hit the play button above to listen for free!) we give strategic advice for learning how to surrender into orgasm.

This podcast features a passage from the book The Multi-Orgasmic Woman.

Co-written by Mantak Chia, the leading expert in the field of Taoist sexuality, and Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D., a family practice physician specializing in women’s health and sexuality, The Multi-Orgasmic Woman combines ancient Taoist practices with current sexual information. It offers a complex system of both physical practices and energy work to create more vitality in the female sexual system.

They propose a five step path to orgasm. The first four steps are focusing your intention, strengthening your pelvic muscles, kindling your sexual energy and exploring your pleasure anatomy. This week we focus on the fifth step, surrendering into orgasm.

Check out the complete book The Multi-Orgasmic Woman

Aphrodisiacs

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Aphrodisiacs: What Really Works? Free Podcast Episode

What Are Aphrodisiacs?

Chocolate, Asparagus, Horny Goat Weed…

Oysters, Ginseng, Rhino Horn…

Are these the tools of Aphrodite?

Aphrodisiacs are foods and herbs meant to increase libido and enhance sexual performance.

The word Aphrodisiac comes from the goddess of love and sexuality, Aphrodite.

All cultures around the world and throughout time celebrate certain foods or herbs as aphrodisiacs.

Some are considered aphrodisiacs because they make your heart race, like spicy peppers.

Some foods look a lot like genitals, so were associated with eroticism, like the very phallic asparagus or the seductive pomegranate.

Others foods were considered seductive because they are are rare and precious, such as truffles or chocolate.

Other aphrodisiac foods provided rare nutrients and thus boosted health, such as zinc rich oysters. Looking back in time, it is easy to see the many reasons certain foods were revered and associated with eroticism.

Do Aphrodisiacs Actually Work?

But are there aphrodisiacs that actually work? Hit “play” on the podcast player above to hear our take on the aphrodisiacs that will really work for you over time – and to find out which ones to avoid.

Want more on romance and seduction? Don’t miss episodes 74 and 75!

Cliteracy

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Cliteracy: Free Podcast Episode

Cliteracy is an art project designed to educate and inspire people about the majesty of the clitoris. Sophia Wallace combines street art, sculpture, textiles and typography to educate and get people literate about the clitoris.

In a world where attention is scarce having projects that are both educational and entertaining – creating edutainment is often a great way of getting people’s attention.

She made an enormous gold statue of a the structure of the clitoris and set up a clit rodeo, where people rode this massive clit like a bull.

She also collaborated with several rap artists to create a rap battle of the clit vs. the penis.

One of her main projects is making posters of “the 100 natural laws of the clitoris.” She also posts some of this info as street art in New York City as if she was doing an advertising campaign for the clitoris.

Some of the points she is highlighting are around the anatomy of the clitoris. If you listen to our podcast regularly you may already be aware of many of the facts about the clitoris. It is awesome to see that most of the info Wallace is spreading through her art about the clitoris is information we regularly share on our podcasts. You are probably already more cliterate than the average person.

  • Wallace mentions that in 1969 we put the man on the moon and in 1982 we invented the internet but it wasn’t until 1998 that we discovered the full anatomy of the clitoris.
  • If you know the anatomy of the clitoris well it can take just 4 minutes to create orgasm, which is the time many women take to reach orgasm during masturbation.
  • The small button like structure we think of when we think of the clitoris is not the whole deal! It is in fact more like an iceberg, with the tip being what we can see. The internal structure of the clitoris is about as big as the penis and goes deep within the body.
  • The clitoris has 2-3 times the nerve endings of the penis. The clitoris is the anatomical equivalent of the penis. We know that it would be inconceivable to have a sexual experience for men without using the penis, so let us treat the clitoris in the same way and be sure to include it as an essential part of your lovemaking in every sexual encounter.
  • As a visual artist she is also highlighting the shape of the anatomy of the clitoris which is kind of awesome to see, it’s like a wishbone but with bonus parts. The Huffington post made a video where they stopped people on the street to try and identify the penis’s and clitoral anatomy and everyone correctly identified the penis, and only one person out of many was able to identify the clitoris.

Check out the resources below and then have conversations with people in your life about the clitoris, and help make the world a more cliterate place!

Sophia Wallace and The Cliteracy Project

The Huffington Post On Cliteracy

Animated Anatomy Of The Clitoris from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.

Clit vs. Penis: A Rap Battle from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.

The Clit Quiz from The Huffington Post on Vimeo.

 

Esther Perel On Preventing Infidelity

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Esther Perel on Preventing Infidelity: Free PodcastEsther Perel’s second TED talk is just as brilliant as her first. In her latest talk, she tackles the common issue of infidelity.

Challenging culture’s assumptions about cheating is just the beginning. She then goes on to question the very nature of infidelity and proposes that it often isn’t really about sex at all. Perhaps cheating is about seeking the feeling of being more “alive” and “awake.”

In this podcast, Charlotte shares some of her favorite excerpts from Esther Perel’s TED talk on infidelity and then challenges you to adopt certain behaviors and attitudes that may prevent cheating in your life, and are surely going to make you feel more alive!

“So if we can divorce, why do we still have affairs? Now, the typical assumption is that if someone cheats, either there’s something wrong in your relationship or wrong with you. But millions of people can’t all be pathological. The logic goes like this: If you have everything you need at home, then there is no need to go looking elsewhere, assuming that there is such a thing as a perfect marriage that will inoculate us against wanderlust. But what if passion has a finite shelf life? What if there are things that even a good relationship can never provide? If even happy people cheat, what is it about?

Affairs are an act of betrayal, and they are also an expression of longing and loss. At the heart of an affair, you will often find a longing and a yearning for an emotional connection, for novelty, for freedom, for autonomy, for sexual intensity, a wish to recapture lost parts of ourselves or an attempt to bring back vitality in the face of loss and tragedy.

When we seek the gaze of another, it isn’t always our partner that we are turning away from, but the person that we have ourselves become. And it isn’t so much that we’re looking for another person, as much as we are looking for another self.

Now, all over the world, there is one word that people who have affairs always tell me. They feel alive.”