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The Venn Diagram of Desire

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Is it selfish to say “no” to your lover’s sexual requests? What role do healthy boundaries play in a satisfying sex life?

Discover the Venn Diagram of Desire! You have your desires, your lover has their own, and your shared sex life is where the two overlap.

Having different interests and desires doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with your relationship, it simply means you need to find your overlap and choose to go deeper together in your relationship.

In this must-listen episode, we explore how to have a fulfilling sex life – while keeping your integrity intact! Being sexually liberated doesn’t mean doing anything and everything!

True sexual freedom means knowing what your authentic desires are, being willing to have open and honest communication with your lover, and choosing what you honestly want to explore together. Negotiation is an essential skill for a successful relationship – but how do you negotiate while respecting your lover’s desires (even if they turn you off!) How do you stay true to yourself while growing and being open to new experiences?

Sex Positions For Maximum Pleasure

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Want to know which sex positions to explore to heat up your sex life? This podcast discusses why sex positions can make or break your sexual experience. We discuss the five most common sexual positions and how to make them way hotter.

Forget acrobatic sex positions that will leave you uncomfortable and unsatisfied. The best sex positions are the ones where you can stay comfortable long enough to get highly aroused!

A great sex position also allows the more active partner to get good leverage so they can thrust for longer periods of time! Physics has never been so much fun!

Ultimately, a great sex position is one that you enjoy. Factors like height, weight, physical strength, ability and fitness have a lot to do with what sex positions you’ll find pleasurable. So make sure to explore, follow your pleasure and enjoy the process of finding your favorite sex positions! Stop worrying about the 169 acrobatic sex positions you’ve never tried and start focusing on having more fun in the positions you do like!

Nipple Stimulation: DOs and DON’Ts

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Discover how to touch the female breasts and nipples for maximum pleasure.

All too often, the breasts are left out of foreplay because women are sick of their nipples being pinched too roughly without any warm up.

We share strategies on how to touch the breasts with more skill and confidence!

Nipple Stimulation DOs and DON’TS

DO remember that nipple sensitivity changes dramatically from moment to moment!
DON’T ever go straight for the nipple!
DO warm up the entire body, chest and breasts before even thinking about touching her nipples!
DO learn how to touch the entire breasts and nipples with masterful skills!
DON’T pinch the nipples until she is begging for more pressure!
DO learn 5 kinds of nipple stimulation in our Guide to Breast Massage, included in our Foreplay Mastery Course
DO make her feel good about her breasts by complimenting them often!
DON’T ever tease her about her breasts, their size or what they look like!
DON’T suck hard when you are doing nipple stimulation with your mouth (until she is ready!)
DO learn how to practice nipple stimulation on a raspberry (details in the podcast!)
DO pay attention so you can learn what kinds of nipple stimulation she likes best!

Swinging: Should We Try It?

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A listener wrote in wanting to know if we would recommend swinging to create a sense of novelty in his long term relationship. While swinging can be fun for some couples, it only works if both partners are excited about it and enthusiastically participating. Since his wife is reluctant to try swinging, we give him some ideas on how to create novelty and a sense of erotic adventure – while deepening his commitment to his marriage at the same time.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Erotic Spanking Mastery Course

Couples Massage Mastery Course

Esther Perel TED Talk:

Sexting Tips

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Is sexting just for teens? How can adults use sexting to have a happier sex life? In this free podcast, we tackle the topic of sexting and provide guidance on mature, smart ways to use sexting in your grown up relationship! We offer practical sexting tips to make sexting more fun and more effective for creating the sex life you want!

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Sexting Tips:

Here are a few brief sexting tips. We go into way more detail in the podcast episode!

Use a private messaging app to keep your sexting separate from the rest of your texting, so you never get caught in an embarrassing moment!
Remember that anything you sext is out there forever, so don’t sext and regret it later!
Tell your lover exactly what kind of language turns you on (especially for body parts and sex acts)
Don’t be a sexting tease: follow through with your promises!
Be honest: sext about what you really enjoy doing, so sexting can enhance your sex life and you can avoid confusion
Play on the spectrum from flirty to raunchy – what kind of sexting do you like best?
Make sexting more romantic! Share moments of pleasure, gratitude and celebration with your lover via text. Also don’t forget to use texting to give your lover praise and compliments!

Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Between App