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Female Masturbation Techniques

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Female Masturbation Techniques

Masturbation is a healthy, pleasurable part of your sex life. Whether or not you are in a relationship, making time to masturbate allows you to experience way more pleasure and unleash more powerful orgasms! Here are some thoughts on essential female masturbation techniques to get you exploring with confidence.

Masturbation is how you get to know your own body. In this episode, we first explore how to get in touch with your desires,  get more aroused and learn how to have orgasms. Then, you can bring all of this knowledge to your partnered sex so you can enjoy more pleasure with your lover.

Learning new female masturbation techniques can help you discover whole new parts of your sexuality and become more in touch with how you like to be touched.

Female Masturbation Techniques: Use Your Hands

Female Masturbation TechniquesUse your hands to explore your entire sexual system. Don’t rush right to your clitoris. Explore what it feels like to touch your labia, your mons and the perineum. Try lots of different kinds of stimulation to wake up new kinds of sensation. You can also zero in on the clitoris to get to orgasm – but try to experience more kinds of stimulation as you build arousal.

Many of these techniques are demonstrated in our Foreplay Mastery Course, and can be used either with a partner or as female masturbation techniques.

Essential Female Masturbation Techniques : Explore Your Sexual System

First, rest your hand on the mons and just take a few relaxed breaths.

Find the outer labia. Touch the entire outside labia, gliding one or two fingers along the length. Then, gather the flesh of the outer labia (might be quite a lot, or a small ripple of tissue) and gently pinch and roll the labia between your fingers.

Feel the texture of the lips and notice what, if any sensation, you are creating. Some people have quite a lot of erotic sensation in their outer labia – other women have very little.

Try this stroke with the inner labia as well if there is enough flesh to play with. The shape and size of the labia is different for every woman – but all have the potential of being a pleasurable part of the female sexual anatomy. Explore the area and notice what sensations you can create by stimulating the labia.  Stimulating the labia is important, as it brings blood flow to the genitals and begins waking up the area without direct clitoral stimulation.

The perineum is a highly sensitive part of the female anatomy that often goes overlooked. The perineum is a nexus of nerves and an intersection of musculature. Use your thumb in small circles on the perineum. Pulse in and out, using quite deep pressure. Move one finger in small circles around the perineum.

Rest your fingers just outside the entrance to the vagina. Pause. Explore this area of the opening – there are a lot of nerve endings here and circling around the outside can be highly stimulating. Use a fingerpad and trace circles around the entrance,  and trace small circles for a few moments just inside the entrance along the bottom wall, then vibrate your finger a little.

If you can reach, use your own fingers to explore your g-spot and try a range of stimulation techniques to see how much sensation you can feel inside. Try circles, long strokes, pulses and vibrations around the g-spot and see what feels best. Combine g-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation for maximum pleasure.

Female Masturbation Techniques: Use Toys

We believe that hands are the best sexual tool ever invented! But there are lots of female masturbation techniques that can only be explored with toys. Check out our page on sex toys to get linked up to some of our favorite toys.

Smartballs are one of our favorite kinds of sex toys. These weighted balls arouse a lot of vaginal sensation, strengthen your pelvic muscles and can be a great compliment to clitoral stimulation.

You can also explore with the wide range of sex toys that are available. Like anal stimulation? Try incorporating butt plugs into your masturbation. Love your nipples played with? Put nipple clamps on and tug at them as you touch your clitoris. Your body is your own playground – explore it fully!

The more female masturbation techniques you experiment with, the more knowledge you will gain about your sexuality. Then you’ll be able to communicate with your lover and ask for exactly what you want in bed.

Anal Sex How To: Expert Info

Anal Sex How ToMany people want to know how to have anal sex that is pleasurable, pain-free and mutually satisfying.

Some people want to know how to get their partners interested in anal sex, or how to have more anal sex.

The answer is all the same: learn how to have anal sex that is 100% pleasurable. This starts with learning highly arousing external anal techniques so you can open up to penetration in a way that is painless and intimate. Anal sex never has to be uncomfortable, let alone painful.

We are passionate about teaching how to enjoy anal play safely, with maximum pleasure. We share all of our expert “anal sex how to” knowledge on this site and in our video guides, designed to make learning how to enjoy anal sex easy and comfortable, no matter what your level of experience. Our online courses – Anal Sex Mastery and Prostate Massage Mastery, guide you stroke-by-stroke in external and internal anal techniques.

Read More About Preparation for Anal Sex In Our Anal Sex How To Info Pages:

Anal Sex How To :  Prepare for External Anal Stimulation

Anal Sex How To : Prepare for Anal Sex

 

Female Ejaculation

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Female Ejaculation

In this episode, we clear up common myths and share the facts about female ejaculation.

Female ejaculation is a normal, healthy expression of female sexuality. For some women it can be highly pleasurable. But it is not a sign of a more “enlightened” sexuality or even more pleasure – it is just one of many kinds of sexual response!

If you want support as you explore female orgasm, arousal and ejaculation, please join our private community! Be part of a fabulous group of men and women from all around the world, having honest and supportive conversations about sex!

What Is Female Ejaculation?

Female Ejaculation is the expulsion of fluid, through the urethra, during female arousal. Female ejaculation may or may not occur at the same time as an orgasm, but normally high levels of arousal are needed to create the female ejaculatory response.

Women who ejaculate often report an intensely pleasurable feeling of release, and a different spectrum of sensations from their non-ejaculatory orgasms. Some women ejaculate almost every time they are highly aroused, other women ejaculate very infrequently.

Amount of ejaculate can vary from a small squirt or trickle to a large gush. The most recent research concludes that ejaculation and gushing are distinct sexual processes. Many women confuse the sensations of ejaculation with urination, mostly because they are unfamiliar with the concept of ejaculation or have been shamed by a previous lover.

Female ejaculation usually happens by stimulating the g-spot, the common name for the female prostate. For complete guidance on g-spot stimulation techniques, check out our Foreplay Mastery Course.

 The Historical Debates over Female Ejaculation

Female Ejaculation has only recently come out of the closet. While first studied by physicians in the 17th century, and documented in Sexology papers ever since, the knowledge and acceptance of female ejaculation was omitted from Western medical practice until very recently.

Meanwhile, many women have been confused and distressed about their own ejaculatory response- in the passions of sex they feel themselves (or their partners notice) a gush of fluid coming from the urethra. Without knowledge of female ejaculation, the natural assumption is that the fluid is urine. Often this triggers a shame response over having “wet the bed,” but perhaps while cleaning those sheets the women noticed that it didn’t smell like urine, and was not yellow like urine.

Just imagine if men did not know about ejaculation, and there was a cultural silence about it. Young boys would be terrified of masturbation, men would be flocking to the doctors for a diagnosis on the strange white substance coming from their urethra.

The Truth About Female Ejaculation and the Female Prostate

In recent years, sex educators have been on a mission to spread information and normalize female ejaculation and the female prostate. Several books, films and websites now feature female ejaculation. The result is more and more women having the aha! moment of realizing all those times they felt the urge to urinate during arousal or all those times they gushed was actually an experience of female ejaculation.

Both the male and female prostate:

* is a gland, located under the bladder, around the urethra.

* produces hormones.

* during arousal, produces fluid. In men, this fluid, along with semen, travels down the urethra and out of the body during ejaculation. In about 10-54% of females, this fluid is pushed out through the urethra.

* responds to direct and indirect stimulation, and can create strong sexual sensations and powerful orgasms.

 The Facts About Female Ejaculation:

* Female ejaculation is not “more enlightened” than other forms of female arousal and pleasure

* Some women love to ejaculate, others find it draining!

* Some women easily ejaculate, others never do!

* To discover how female ejaculation fits into your sexual expression, focus on g-spot stimulation

Recent Studies on Female Ejaculation:

Female Ejaculation Comes In Two Forms (New Scientist)

A 2014 meta analysis of the research on female ejaculation, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, reports that between 10-54% of women experience some form of female ejaculation, where fluid from the female prostate is pushed out through the urethra during arousal. This research also concludes that female ejaculation is a distinct process from the “gushing” and “squirting” orgasms where a large amount of watery fluid is emitted through the urethra. Further research into the chemical composition of the distinct fluids will reveal more about the source and processes of these varieties of female sexual experiences.

More Studies On Female Ejaculation

Pleasure

Most simply, pleasure is the experience of being pleased, gratified, rewarded. Pleasure most typically references a sensual experience of some sort – an experience of our physical bodies that we find good, satisfying or arousing.

Pleasure also connotes desire of some sort – we desire that which pleases us – good food, erotic touch, beautiful music. The relationship between desire and pleasure in most people is a cycle – we experience pleasure from something particular, and in turn begin to crave more. If you have never tasted fine wines, it is hard to desire it. We all have a unique constellation of known pleasures- developed tastes and desires that bring us joy, satisfaction and fulfillment. From our favorite music and food to a specific kind of erotic touch, many of us have desires for specific sensual delights.

To keep life interesting and relationships exciting, we can also begin to explore new kinds of pleasure – and may discover that we are capable of experiencing way more pleasure than we knew possible.

How to Give a Handjob

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How To Give A Handjob

Ready to learn how to give a handjob that he’ll never forget? First, forget everything you think you know about handjobs.

Forget the image of holding on and pumping up and down in the same frenzied motion over and over again. We’re not quite sure when this one-stroke model for touching men became the norm, but throw it out the window – men deserve a lot more finesse than that.

Touch your man with creativity and curiosity, and use your hands to create the widest range of sensation possible.
ForeplayBadgeAs trained massage therapists and body-based sex educators, we are experts in erotic touch, and to help you out we have created a stroke-by-stroke video guide that demonstrates a huge range of handjob techniques for maximum pleasure and arousal.

The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs was first published on DVD in 2007.  Now, you’ll find the video and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

Learn a few new skills and you’ll soon discover that your hands can create a huge range of sensations. You can create a full and satisfying sexual experience with just your hands if you know how.

Tips on How To Give A Handjob To Blow His Mind!

  • Use lubricant to allow your hands to slip and slide over his sensitive skin. Lube decreases friction and increases sensation.
  • Use more pressure than you thought possible. Many women are scared of hurting the penis and use light, tentative pressure. Try using a very firm grip, using your hands to create a tight squeeze along the entire length of his shaft. Then explore the full range of pressure, from feather light to very deep.
  • Use your hands in a variety of ways – from a full hand grasp to a single finger glide. The more variety you create, the more sensation he will feel and your touch will stay fresh and exciting.
  • Play with rhythm and speed to create variety. Think of it as music – steady rhythm with variety and unexpected flourishes creates more pleasure.
  • Think of the stimulation as a journey, not a race to the finish. Don’t just find one stroke that works and try to finish as quickly as possible. Build up his arousal, then back off. Tease him. Create peaks and valleys in his pleasure. This will make his climax even more intense.

Ready to master the skill of how to give a handjob? The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Handjobs is the world’s bestselling video guide on how to give a handjob that will blow his mind! You’ll find it and much more in our Foreplay Mastery Course.

You’ll learn strokes to create a wide range of sensations, prolong his arousal and give him stronger orgasms. Go way beyond the classic jerk-off stroke – surprise him with all of the different ways you stimulate his most sensitive parts.