Question:: I had heard about male prostate orgasms and found your site when researching them. Great site, BTW! And I appreciate your weekly newsletter and am looking forward to the podcasts. My wife has downloaded both your sex bucket list and your cunnilingus books and likes them.
After trying several different methods of self stimulation of my prostate (fingers, vibrators, even drum sticks as suggested by another site) I haven’t even come close to an orgasm.
It’s out of the question for my parter to do this for me, so I’m on my own. Any suggestions on how to get the most out of this technique?
Hey there,
So start by reading these two pages on our site and then let me know if you have any specific questions:
http://www.pleasuremechanics.com/prostate-masturbation/
http://www.pleasuremechanics.com/anal-masturbation/
Drumsticks are horrible advice – they could splinter inside you which would be very dangerous. You never want to put anything in your butt that doesn’t have a flared base- unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn’t have an end – and contractions can pull objects up inside you, requiring a hospital visit to retrieve. Only use flared base toys specifically designed for anal play. Have you tried using the Aneros? Most guys report the most satisfaction with regular use of this toy.
It can be very hard to reach your own prostate with your fingers. You may not be reaching it enough to get a lot of sensation. Try more positions to see if you can penetrate deeper! Most guys have best luck on their hands and knees so they can reach around, angle a toy down and meanwhile stroke their cock for maximum arousal. Or, try standing with one foot up on a stool or stair – again, the reach around is a bit easier.
Also, I encourage you to spend more time with external anal stimulation before you go inside – this is where a lot of the pleasure is!
Read the pages above, check out the Aneros and be in touch with any follow up questions. We will probably do a podcast on this topic soon – we get a lot of questions like yours! Stay tuned.
Cheers,
Chris