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Naughty Sex For Grown Ups

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Naughty Sex For Grown Ups

Isn’t it fun to feel a little naughty? Ever since we were kids, being a bit naughty has been so thrilling. Bending the rules, sneaking a treat, testing boundaries and breaking taboos are surefire ways to create a thrill.

Erotic taboos can be a tremendous source of arousal. But they also create shame, and shame creates silence. In that silence, people can get hurt. So how do we relieve ourselves from crippling shame while preserving the thrills of breaking taboos?

In this week’s podcast, we explore the art of releasing shame and mastering technique while enjoying the thrill of breaking taboos. Make sure to tune in if any part of you enjoys being a little naughty once in awhile!

One of our favorite sexologists, the late and great Jack Morin, recognized the erotic importance of taboos. He even names “violating prohibitions” as one of the four cornerstones of eroticism. He states: “A fusion of arousal and rule-breaking when you’re young dramatically increases the odds that you’ll retain in your adult eroticism a tendency to be excited by violational behaviors and fantasies. I call the aphrodisiac effects of violating prohibitions “the naughtiness factor”

The essential step is to release shame so you truly believe in your heart that your actions are good for you and healthy. Then you can roleplay as much naughtiness as you wish.

Let’s admit it: we all like being a bit naughty once in awhile. We believe you can slay shame and still get the thrills of the naughtiness factor. You can be as naughty as you want to be and still feel great about yourself!

Erotic Massage

What Is Erotic Massage?

Erotic massage is a complete sexual experience that both men and women can enjoy. Erotic massage can create extremely high levels of arousal and often ends with powerful full body orgasms. The key to erotic massage is combining full body touch with arousing erotic touch.

Erotic massage is a “taking turns” erotic experience. One of you is in the role of Giver, the other gets to relax and focus entirely on being the Receiver.
Erotic massage is an opportunity to lavish your lover with erotic touch, head to toe. It is a very luxurious experience, and many people report reaching higher levels of arousal than they knew possible.

Just like oral sex, the experience of “taking turns” allows you to sink deeper into the experience of both giving and receiving. While receiving erotic massage, there is nothing to do but focus on the sensations in your body. Many people are surprised at just how much arousal they can handle while receiving erotic massage. Women are surprised at how much pleasure they can feel when they give themselves permission to receive the full attention of their devoted lover. Men are surprised at how long they can sustain arousal and maintain erections. When receiving erotic massage people often experience far more arousal than they new possible.

Erotic massage starts with a full body massage. This relaxes the body and primes it for full body arousal. Once the recipient is totally relaxed, you can begin building arousal with erotic stimulation. Using your hands to stimulate your lover’s genitals (and anal area if you so choose!) you build up arousal and then use more full body touch to “spread it out” into full body arousal.

When done well, erotic massage creates the experience of full body orgasm – as you climax you feel the arousal streaming through every part of your body. Many people report the sensation of arousal streaming through their legs and arms and “shooting out” the top of their heads. Don’t go into your first erotic massage experience expecting a transcendent outcome. Just like any other physical skill, it will take time to master. Instead, approach it with a spirit of curiosity and just be open to what happens!

To master the art of erotic massage, check out the Foreplay Mastery Course!

Emily Nagoski Part 2

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Emily Nagoski Interview Part 2Last week we brought you part one of our interview with Emily Nagoski, author of the new book  Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. Listen to Part 1 here.

This week, her op-ed about responsive desire was published in the New York Times and triggered a firestorm of response. We are proud to be sharing her groundbreaking work with you again this week in part two of the interview.

This week, the interview covers:

  • Why sex is NOT a drive (and what it really is!)
  • The new definition of orgasm
  • How to reprogram your brain to overcome erotic obstacles

Grab your copy of Come As You Are

Check out Emily’s op-ed in The New York Times

Male Sex Toys

Sex toys are for everyone! From using strokers and rings to plugs and other vibrating things, more men are discovering what these toys can do. That goes for whether they want to increase their self-love or ramp up their experience with their partner, because incorporating a new toy or two can accomplish those goals.

Penis Toys

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Prostate Toys

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Emily Nagoski on the Surprising Science of Sex

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Emily Nagoski on the Surprising Science of SexOur culture tells us all sorts of things about female pleasure. We are told women are complicated, hard to figure out, overly emotional creatures with elusive libidos. None of these messages are very helpful when it comes to giving and experiencing more pleasure, right? Do you long for honest, accurate information that actually helps you experience a better love life? If so, you are in the right place! We are dedicated to providing the most effective techniques so you can experience the pleasure you crave.

In order to give you the most powerful information and strategies, we are constantly reading and learning about sexuality and love. When we come across an amazing resource, we love sharing it with you.

We are thrilled to share an interview with Emily Nagoski, author of the new book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. Emily reveals what the latest science has to say about female desire, libido and orgasms. This is a must-listen episode for anyone interested in women’s pleasure. Click the play button above to listen to the interview!

In the interview you’ll learn

  • why everything you know about the hymen is wrong
  • the key to getting in the mood more often
  • how taking control of your brain will lead to a better love life
  • why “desirable” and “pleasurable” are not always the same thing

Check out Emily’s book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life and Emily’s blog, The Dirty Normal.

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