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Rope Bondage For Beginners

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Rope Bondage For Beginners

Rope bondage is one of the most common erotic fantasies for both men and women. There is a strong allure for participating on both sides of the bondage fantasy. It can be incredibly sexy to imagine being tied up by a trusted lover, held captive in ropes while you are lavished in touch. It is equally thrilling to imagine having your partner bound tightly, looking up at you as you decide what to do to them next. For some people, it is the ropes and restraint that are so captivating. Others find a kind of freedom in being dominated and restrained, so they can relax into the erotic experience and do nothing but receive.

One of the most important things to learn is that bondage doesn’t have to be rough to be sexy. It can be a slow, sensual experience of love and trust. Bondage can even be a portal to a spiritual erotic experience.

“By restraining the flesh, the body is occupied, leaving the mind and spirit to engage in other pursuits.”

In this week’s podcast, we are joined by internationally recognized rope bondage expert Lee Harrington to talk all about rope bondage. We cover:

the history of rope bondage in Japan
how rope bondage became a popular fantasy
how to get started with your very first rope bondage scene
safety precautions for beginners
how to make rope bondage
how to amplify intimacy with rope bondage

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sex educator who focuses on the intersection of spirituality, eroticism and kink. He is an award winning author, and just released both an updated version of Shibari You Can Use and a sequel More Shibari You Can Use, both hands-on manuals about rope bondage. Lee emphasizes the intimate and even spiritual uses of rope bondage while providing easy to use techniques that beginners can put to use right away.

Whether or not you ever want to try out something like rope bondage, this conversation will fascinate and delight you. You’ll learn something you can apply to your sex life, with or without the thrills of bondage!

Are Facials Degrading?

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Are Facials Degrading?

Facials have a bad reputation. Many consider them to be degrading and humiliating. But do they have to be? In this episode we explore what makes a sex act degrading. Facials involve a man ejaculating on his partner’s face, usually as part of oral sex. Are they considered degrading because ejaculate itself is considered dirty? Or because oral sex is thought of as an act of degradation? What if we think about semen as a pleasurable, life-giving fluid? Could facials be part of loving, tender sex? Listen in and see what you think!

Here is the email from a listener that we answer in this episode:

Hey Pleasure Mechanics,

First of all, thanks for the show. My boyfriend and I both listen to it, usually separately, but often have great conversations prompted by the show. Most recently, episode #71 helped us have a huge breakthrough about my orgams/ orgasms during sex. But that’s not my question. My question is about facials. He really loves coming on my face, and to be honest I don’t mind it that much. But it came up in conversation with a friend recently because she was saying how degrading it is and that no self respecting woman would let it happen. I got really embarrassed but didn’t say anything to her right then. But then the other night, I was going down on my boyfriend and he wanted to end with a facial, and I felt sick all of a sudden. Have I been letting him degrade me this whole time? I love this guy and can even see us getting married someday – is letting him do this to me making me less of wife material? Should I stop letting him do this? Honestly, I had never really thought about it until my friend brought it up, and I was curious what you think about it. Thanks! ~ Deena

Best Sex Ever

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Best Sex Ever

This week we are sharing some of favorite techniques for having the Best. S*x. Ever. These are the elements that will take your lovemaking from ordinary to extraordinary. Try one of the strategies and see how things heat up. Slowly add them, one by one, to your intimate life and you’ll feel their collective power!

Remember, one of the best ways to improve your love life is to take the time to learn how to give one another more pleasure. Our online courses are the perfect way to invest in one another’s pleasure (and orgasms, and ecstasy!)

Some couples invest thousands of dollars going to a weekend workshop – we’ve taught sold out workshops all across the country. Now, we bring all of our best techniques to you so you can explore at your own pace in the privacy of your own home (for less than the cost of one night at a hotel!)

Ready to master new erotic skills and take your love life to the next level?

Enroll in one of our online courses now!

Flirtation, Seduction And Initiation

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Flirtation, Seduction And Initiation

In episode #074 of the podcast we explored how to be romantic while still being true to yourself. We examined the four elements of authentic romance so you can discover how to activate the power of romance all year long, going beyond red roses and champagne.

To continue our 3 part series leading up to the lover’s holiday of Valentine’s Day, this week we are exploring Flirtation, Seduction & Initiation.

Flirting is all about expressing attraction and creating the spark of desire. Flirting is part of what makes dating so much fun, but tends to get lost in long term relationships. In this episode, we talk about why flirting is so important to maintain in a long term relationship and give you strategies to start flirting with your partner again.

Seduction is the art of inviting your partner into an erotic experience. Many people don’t feel very seductive, but we give you strategies to seduce and fearlessly initiate intimacy.

Initiation can be scary, because it makes you vulnerable and puts you at risk of rejection. But if you want to have a great love life, you have to learn how to fearlessly initiate intimacy. Listen in to discover how!

Flirting, Seducing and Initiating are essential skills for having a great love life over the years. Listen in to this week’s episode and challenge yourself to amp up these forces in your relationship, and we promise you’ll love the results!

How To Be Romantic

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How To Be Romantic

Champagne, chocolate and roses. Is that what Valentine’s Day is really about? Or is it the opportunity to be more romantic, express your love and make your loved one feel special? The cynics roll their eyes at Valentine’s Day but we think that Valentine’s Day is a great excuse to brush up on romance and recommit to being more romantic, seductive and yes, even orgasmic, all year round!

Over the next three weeks, we are going to be dissecting Valentine’s Day so you can have a better love life all year round. We pull apart what makes champagne and chocolates “romantic” to unlock the key to experiencing the richness of real, authentic romance.

Part 1: How To Be Romantic: What is romance and how can we make it work for us all year round? We present our romance formula so you can figure out what will make your lover swoon! Authentic romantic gestures can set the stage for a happier, hotter relationship all year round.

Part 2: Seduction: Once you have the power of romance working for you, you still have to seduce your lover and initiate intimacy. This can get tricky, even painful. We take the guesswork out of seduction and initiation and reveal how to fearlessly seduce your lover.

Part 3: Best Sex Ever: Beyond chocolates, what everyone hopes for on Valentine’s Day is some special occasion lovemaking. Here’s five ways to take it from ordinary to extraordinary. These strategies work any day of the year, so be sure to put all of them to the test!

This week, it’s all about romance. Click the “play” button above to listen to the free podcast on how to be romantic. You’ll hear all about our take on what creates meaningful romance.

Discover the 4 cornerstones of romance
Find out how to discover what makes your lover swoon so you can deliver romance all year round!
Use our simple strategies to give your romantic gestures the most bang for your buck