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Emily Nagoski Part 2

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Emily Nagoski Interview Part 2Last week we brought you part one of our interview with Emily Nagoski, author of the new book  Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. Listen to Part 1 here.

This week, her op-ed about responsive desire was published in the New York Times and triggered a firestorm of response. We are proud to be sharing her groundbreaking work with you again this week in part two of the interview.

This week, the interview covers:

  • Why sex is NOT a drive (and what it really is!)
  • The new definition of orgasm
  • How to reprogram your brain to overcome erotic obstacles

Grab your copy of Come As You Are

Check out Emily’s op-ed in The New York Times

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Emily Nagoski on the Surprising Science of Sex

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Emily Nagoski on the Surprising Science of SexOur culture tells us all sorts of things about female pleasure. We are told women are complicated, hard to figure out, overly emotional creatures with elusive libidos. None of these messages are very helpful when it comes to giving and experiencing more pleasure, right? Do you long for honest, accurate information that actually helps you experience a better love life? If so, you are in the right place! We are dedicated to providing the most effective techniques so you can experience the pleasure you crave.

In order to give you the most powerful information and strategies, we are constantly reading and learning about sexuality and love. When we come across an amazing resource, we love sharing it with you.

We are thrilled to share an interview with Emily Nagoski, author of the new book Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life. Emily reveals what the latest science has to say about female desire, libido and orgasms. This is a must-listen episode for anyone interested in women’s pleasure. Click the play button above to listen to the interview!

In the interview you’ll learn

  • why everything you know about the hymen is wrong
  • the key to getting in the mood more often
  • how taking control of your brain will lead to a better love life
  • why “desirable” and “pleasurable” are not always the same thing

Check out Emily’s book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life and Emily’s blog, The Dirty Normal.

Rope Bondage For Beginners

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Rope Bondage For Beginners

Rope bondage is one of the most common erotic fantasies for both men and women. There is a strong allure for participating on both sides of the bondage fantasy. It can be incredibly sexy to imagine being tied up by a trusted lover, held captive in ropes while you are lavished in touch. It is equally thrilling to imagine having your partner bound tightly, looking up at you as you decide what to do to them next. For some people, it is the ropes and restraint that are so captivating. Others find a kind of freedom in being dominated and restrained, so they can relax into the erotic experience and do nothing but receive.

One of the most important things to learn is that bondage doesn’t have to be rough to be sexy. It can be a slow, sensual experience of love and trust. Bondage can even be a portal to a spiritual erotic experience.

“By restraining the flesh, the body is occupied, leaving the mind and spirit to engage in other pursuits.”

In this week’s podcast, we are joined by internationally recognized rope bondage expert Lee Harrington to talk all about rope bondage. We cover:

  • the history of rope bondage in Japan
  • how rope bondage became a popular fantasy
  • how to get started with your very first rope bondage scene
  • safety precautions for beginners
  • how to make rope bondage
  • how to amplify intimacy with rope bondage

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sex educator who focuses on the intersection of spirituality, eroticism and kink. He is an award winning author, and just released both an updated version of Shibari You Can Use and a sequel More Shibari You Can Use, both hands-on manuals about rope bondage. Lee emphasizes the intimate and even spiritual uses of rope bondage while providing easy to use techniques that beginners can put to use right away.

Whether or not you ever want to try out something like rope bondage, this conversation will fascinate and delight you. You’ll learn something you can apply to your sex life, with or without the thrills of bondage!

Are Facials Degrading?

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Are Facials Degrading?

 

Facials have a bad reputation. Many consider them to be degrading and humiliating. But do they have to be? In this episode we explore what makes a sex act degrading. Facials involve a man ejaculating on his partner’s face, usually as part of oral sex. Are they considered degrading because ejaculate itself is considered dirty? Or because oral sex is thought of as an act of degradation? What if we think about semen as a pleasurable, life-giving fluid? Could facials be part of loving, tender sex? Listen in and see what you think!

Here is the email from a listener that we answer in this episode:

Hey Pleasure Mechanics,

First of all, thanks for the show. My boyfriend and I both listen to it, usually separately, but often have great conversations prompted by the show. Most recently, episode #71 helped us have a huge breakthrough about my orgams/ orgasms during sex. But that’s not my question. My question is about facials. He really loves coming on my face, and to be honest I don’t mind it that much. But it came up in conversation with a friend recently because she was saying how degrading it is and that no self respecting woman would let it happen. I got really embarrassed but didn’t say anything to her right then. But then the other night, I was going down on my boyfriend and he wanted to end with a facial, and I felt sick all of a sudden. Have I been letting him degrade me this whole time? I love this guy and can even see us getting married someday – is letting him do this to me making me less of wife material? Should I stop letting him do this? Honestly, I had never really thought about it until my friend brought it up, and I was curious what you think about it. Thanks! ~ Deena