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Is My Boyfriend Gay?

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Is My Boyfriend Gay?

If a straight guy wants to explore anal play, does it make him gay? Bisexual? Or just curious?

We answer a listener’s question to assure her that liking prostate play or anal play doesn’t make a man gay!

We also offer tips and strategies for making their first male anal explorations safe and pleasurable for everyone involved!

Ready to start exploring prostate play with your man? Unleash the power of prostate orgasms with our online course: Prostate Massage Mastery


Q::

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few years, and so far everything has been great – in bed and otherwise. Recently, he asked me if I would try anal sex – but not on me, on him! I freaked out a little, but he is telling me that a lot of guys are into it. Is this true? Is my boyfriend gay, or maybe bi?  I don’t get why he would want it. He showed me your website and I thought I’d ask, since apparently you guys are where he got the idea in the first place.

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Fellatio : Discover How To Love Giving Oral Sex

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Fellatio

A listener wants to know if she can learn to love giving her boyfriend oral sex. We seize the opportunity to offer tips and strategies to make giving blow jobs way more pleasurable!

Many women don’t like giving blowjobs, and no wonder: the way porn depicts blowjobs is not that pleasurable for the woman!

But if we shift the model and learn how to make fellatio into a complete erotic experience, it can be a major turn on for women to give their men so much pleasure with their hands and mouth!

 

Fellatio can be an incredible part of a fulfilling sex life. But for fellatio to be pleasurable for the giver, it needs to be approached as a gift freely given, rather than a chore to endure.

We cover techniques to make oral sex easier to give, including  how to use handjob techniques to stimulate the shaft while focusing oral stimulation on the sensitive head of the penis. To master these skills (and way more!) check out our Foreplay Mastery Course.

We also cover communication techniques so you can make your fellatio uniquely yours by choosing what kind of erotic energy you want to play with, what parts of blowjobs you like and what you want to avoid.

Fellatio can be a loving, joyful expression of pleasure. Learn how to love oral sex!

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Here’s the question that inspired this podcast. You can submit a question to be answered on future episodes on our Ask Us Anything page!
Stephanie writes:
Hey Pleasure Mechanics,
Thanks for your awesome podcast. My boyfriend and I listen to it together and it has prompted lots of great conversations. He encouraged me to write in with an issue that has been a problem for us for years.
Like most guys, he loves blowjobs. The problem is, I don’t love giving him oral sex. I don’t have any problem with the idea of it, and at first it is ok, but after a few minutes I just feel like I am choking and drooling and it is a total turn-off. He knows I don’t like it so he has stopped asking, but I know it is something he wants more of. So my question is, is this something I can learn to love? Any tips for making going down more fun?

First Time Sex? The Beginner’s Guide To Great Sex

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Beginner's Guide to Great Sex

No matter if you are having first time sex or have been having sex for decades, there is always more to learn to enjoy more sexual pleasure and freedom.

This podcast offers advice for anyone who wants to enjoy better sexual intercourse, from beginners to advanced lovers.

In response to a listener’s question, we offer specific strategies aimed at those who have never had pleasurable intercourse before.

If you are having first time sex, or just want to totally change the way you make love, be sure to check out our Foreplay Mastery Course to get the skills you need for a satisfying and pleasurable sex life.


More On Our Beginner’s Guide to Great Sex

In this podcast, we include advice for both men and women. Great sex begins with a good attitude towards sex, so we start with advice on how to overcome sexual shame and hangups that prevent you from being present during sexual intimacy.

Next, we dive into tips on becoming more communicative and expressive during sex. From making more noise to asking for what you want to moving your body in response to pleasure, we help you get over the nervousness and anxiety that cause you to unresponsive during sex.

We break down tons of sexual myths that put pressure on us to perform a specific way, give advice on how to make using condoms more pleasurable and even give strategies for better penetration and thrusting.

This episode is packed with sex advice that we all can learn something from, whether or not you are a sexual newbie!

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This podcast episode was inspired by this question, submitted by a listener:

Question:: Hi, Pleasure Mechanics.  I often listen to your delightful podcast.  I will now try to challenge your “nothing is taboo” motto, by inquiring into something you’ve never come close to discussing.  So brace yourselves…I wonder about BEGINNERS.  That is, men and women who are justifiably ready for sex, but have never had sex (i.e. coitus).  What follows is a small sample of practical beginner questions that come to my mind.  I bet you can come up with other good, practical questions which you also may want to address in your podcast, sometime, for the countless people who are far less sexually experienced than you or your regular clients.

First question: how can a male beginner who has only a vague idea what physical action to take during sex, overcome confusion long enough to maintain an erection?

Second question: how can a female beginner, if she has little strength and experience–especially compared to men–get comfortable enough to do anything other than remain motionless during sex?

Third question: how can a male beginner maintain an erection and pleasure, despite thinking his genital sensitivity is shut off when his condom is put on?

Fourth question: how can either a male or female beginner, even if he/she believes sex can be a great expression of love, overcome a simultaneous de-energizing feeling that sex is also kind of gross?  Thanks so much!

Married And Flirting

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Married and Flirting

Is it ok to be attracted to someone else when you are married?

When does flirting become cheating?

We explore how to keep a marriage safe while enjoying being attracted to and flirting with other people!

Learn how to set clear boundaries with your partner to avoid feelings of betrayal. Discover proven strategies for creating a more secure relationship so you can have more trust and confidence with your partner.

Married and flirting? This is a must-listen episode!


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Question::

I’m very happily married, and have a great sex life, but lately I’ve been fantasizing / desiring a close family friend of ours. I would not do anything realistically to break the bond with my wife, but I feel a lot of guilt due to my feelings toward the other woman. Is this a normal thing? I would never (I don’t think…) do anything considered rude behavior to our friend. We tease at times, but it is just considered innocent behavior, and she feels very comfortable around me, and I her. I think I’m just going through some sort of confusing phase in my life. What advice would you propose? I don’t want to hurt anyones feelings, or put anything or anyone in an uncomfortable situation. Matters of the heart can get muddled at times….

Answer:: 

Hey,

Thanks for being in touch.
Being married and flirting can be a tough combination. One misstep and you may end up with a lot of emotional fallout. Being married and flirting should not be mutually exclusive, however! Flirting can be totally innocent and make you feel good about yourself.
First, let us assure you that your feelings are totally normal. Married and flirting? Join the club! Most people, married or otherwise, feel attraction to more than one person. Most of the time flirting is totally harmless and can actually feel great, giving you more confidence and energy to bring back to your wife.
There is a huge difference between Fantasy and Desire – we all can have very active fantasies that do not match our desire for real life experience. For more on this point, read here: http://www.pleasuremechanics.com/fantasy/
Keeping a clear line between fantasy and desire is crucial – just like you can go to a horror movie and enjoy the fantasy of it, but not really want to experience blood and gore in real life, your fantasy life is your own. As long as you have good boundaries!
You may want to do some thinking and explore if there are any desires for real life experiences or sexual needs that are not being met, and then take small steps with your wife to become more fulfilled. Often when we fantasize about another person there is a specific energy or element that excites us (playfulness? feeling desired? danger?) and you can take steps to bring more of that into your actual sex life.
I would also say that it is normal and healthy to have intimate relationships outside of your marriage – close friendships are important! As long as you know where the boundaries are, and can trust yourself to maintain them, you can relax and enjoy the closeness. And the more you communicate and cultivate trust with your wife, the more she can relax and allow you to have intimacy with other people.
You may also want to listen to our podcast episode, How To Prevent Cheating. We explore a lot of the question about how to communicate to create solid boundaries while getting your needs met!
Let me know if you have any follow up questions!
Thanks for being in touch!
Chris
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