Pleasure Mechanics

50 Shades of Sexy

Like millions of women worldwide, we loved the story of seduction between Christian and Anastasia. We read E.L. James’ 50 Shades of Grey with an eye for what we can all learn about sex from the steamy pages. Here is a round-up of the Top 50 Things to Learn About Sex from 50 Shades of Grey. We are also covering each topic below in greater depth in a YouTube video.

Cheers! Chris and Charlotte, The Pleasure Mechanics

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Sex Educators Speak Out on 50 Shades of Grey

Sex Educators! Please share your opinions on the Summer of Grey! 

What Sex Educators Think About 50 Shades of Grey:

Top 50 Things You Can Learn About Sex from 50 Shades of Grey

Dr. Ruth on 50 Shades

My Sex Professor : Five Silver Linings of 50 Shades of Grey

Violet Blue : “An impostor in the context of its genre’s history”

Feminist Theorist Marina Warner:  “We are driven by what we dream and by what we desire and hope for. I don’t think fantasy is hermetically sealed from the rest of our lives.”

 

Writers Speak Out:

“The whole world knows women are sensual human beings as well as men. It’s no secret anymore that women want to read sexy fiction just as men do, and there’s a new frankness about the varieties of fantasies one might enjoy. So many clichés have been broken and abandoned. And this is a wonderful thing.” – Anne Rice, in the new forward to The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy

 

Women Speak Out:

“Why is an educated young woman living in the 21st century referring to her vagina as “down there?” – Ten Reasons I Hate Fifty Shades of Grey by Melissa_Thinks

“Fifty Shades of Grey is porn, and porn can be quite fun.” In Defence of 50 Shades of Grey by Laurie Penny

Q&A: I want to date Christian Grey!

Where would one go to find “Christian Grey” like guys? Fancy Restaurants? Coffee shops? Downtown? I guess what I mean, is where do you look or find rich handsome guys? – Maribel

Hey there,

I wish of course I could match make you with the man of your dreams, but that is beyond the scope of my skills.
I would emphasize, however, that there may be more important qualities than wealth – this emphasis in the book troubles us as sex educators. The worst lovers we have met have been the wealthiest – often way more obsessed with their bottom line instead of their lover’s bottom.
It is also essential for a woman’s health and safety to have financial independence. So income of your partner should be closer to yours than not, in order to not endanger yourself. This is a complicated issue but trust your instinct on it.
Go deeper into Christian’s character and ask yourself what you are really craving. Then deliberately start calling that into your life, seeking that quality out in the men you meet.
All my best, thanks for being in touch.
May you meet guys that fulfill you in all the right ways,
Chris
PleasureMechanics.com
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Risk

It should be acknowledged that different sexual activities inherently involve degrees of risk.

Risk comes in many forms:

Physical Safety:

– Risk of Transmission of Sexually Transmitted Infections

– Risk of Pregnancy

– Risk of Injury (through improper technique)

– Risk of Physical Abuse

 Emotional Safety:

– Risk of Unrequited Emotional Investment

– Risk of Loss of Requited Emotional Investment (Death, Disease)

– Risk of Embarrasment/Dishonesty/Humiliation

– Risk of Emotional Abuse / Manipulation

In short, the more we “open up” to a lover, the more risk we are taking on in all of the above categories. Most people would consider having penetrative (oral, vaginal and anal) intercourse the highest all-around risk category. Everyone has different amounts of risk they are willing to take on.

We are not sexual health experts and can not advise you on the appropriate amount of risk. Where relevant, we try to provide links to clinical information about things like infections, pregnancy and abuse.

Our only goal is to provide you with techniques and strategies for more pleasure. When you choose to share touch with someone, we see an opportunity for maximizing your relaxation, pleasure, intimacy and connection.