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Open To Receiving

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There are so many reasons why receiving sexual pleasure can be challenging for so many of us. 

Receiving sexual pleasure is a specific skill set that is necessary to complete the circuit of pleasure when we are making love. 

We can think about receiving sexual pleasure as being similar to receiving a gift, where the gift is the attention, care and presence of our lover.

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When we don’t fully receive the gift of sexual pleasure that is being offered, it is similar to leaving a gift unopened. Instead of fully receiving the gift, some of us might find it easier to deflect, disagree or diminish the offering.

We can explore how we feel and respond to receiving, in and out of the bedroom, by noticing how we respond to receiving compliments and gifts. 

When we are given a compliment, we can practice saying “thank you” as a complete response. This can become a practice of receiving the gift of a compliment without diminishing, deflecting or disagreeing with the offering. Uncomfortable feelings may arise in response to receiving a compliment, but we can notice this and practice choosing a different response that allows us to receive the compliment a little more deeply.

There is an art to receiving gifts, compliments and sexual pleasure. We can constantly increase our artistry and capacity for receiving pleasure by practicing receiving both in and out of the bedroom. 

Part of allowing ourselves to deeply enjoy the gift of what is offered to us, is to remember that we do not just have to receive what is given. You are always allowed to kindly and sensitively ask for adjustments so you can receive more pleasure. Your lover wants nothing more than to delight you and bring you pleasure. When you make adjustments to allow yourself to receive more pleasure you are contributing to increasing the circuit of pleasure between you. 

When we bring some attention to the skillset of receiving pleasure we can allow the conversation and micro practices to encourage you to keep receiving more pleasure, joy and connection. We can allow our successes to contribute to a pleasurable upward spiral of feeling and experiencing more pleasure in your body and relationships over time. Join us in exploring this conversation within this podcast episode.

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Preventing Premature Penetration

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Penetration of all kinds can be an intimate and orgasmic part of the erotic experience – but only if everyone involved is ripe and ready for this physical, emotional and relational event. Far too often, lovers rush towards penetration and end up under-stimulated and unsatisfied. In this episode, we explore how to prioritize readiness when it comes to penetration to make it as pleasurable as possible for everyone involved.

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Continue The Conversation With These Speaking of Sex Episodes

  • Playing Without Penetration : Fulfilling Sexuality Beyond Intercourse
  • Playing With Penetration Part 1: Graceful Penetration
  • A Whole New Approach To Anal Play
  • Reclaiming Soft Penis Pleasures

How To Build A Sex Room On Any Budget

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The Netflix series How To Build A Sex Room has a lot of us asking questions about how we can create a more conducive space for our sex life, yet few of us have the time, budget and square footage for a dedicated sex room. But we ALL can cultivate our erotic context with small acts of expression and agency – and on this episode we share how to create space for your erotic expression and exploration, on any budget.

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Find the music that makes you feel sexy and playful. Check out Kenzi.Audio for the music that gets Chris moving, and try building your own sex playlists to create for soundtrack your best sex life. Here is one of Chris’ favorite Kenzi playlists on Spotify to get you started!

Explore the erotic watercolor art from our own Charlotte Mia Rose and consider how you can use art on your walls to quickly change the mood and feel of your space.

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Continue The Conversation With These Speaking of Sex Episodes

  • Overcoming Distraction For Better Sex
  • The Dual Control Model of Arousal
  • Manage Your Turn Ons and Turn Offs

The Neuroscience of Pleasure with Dr. Nan Wise

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Dr. Nan Wise joins us to discuss the emerging neuroscience of pleasure, orgasm and emotions.

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Nan Wise, Ph.D. is the author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier and More Purpose Filled Life. She is a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University and has a private practice. Connect with her at AskDoctorNan.com

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Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global team of Pleasure Partners:

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Bonus Clips from Nan Wise Interview

Nan Wise on the benefits of orgasm and pleasure:

Nan Wise on feeling full “peak and release” emotional cycles

Nan Wise on Lust, Care & Play

Trust Your Yes

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It makes sense that many of us have fear, suspicion and doubt around our deepest desires – there are generations of erotic mistrust that we have inherited! So how can you begin to Trust Your Yes, affirm your desires, and go after what you want, in and out of the bedroom?

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In this episode we explore how we can all practice trusting our desires and giving our pleasure more permission.

Prioritize Your Pleasure is an anthem we’ve been singing for 15 years, but the first step is to Trust Your Yes. Join us on this episode to explore what it means to step into more trust and permission when it comes to your most intimate desires.

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