How-To — Page 24 — Pleasure Mechanics

G-Spot

If you feel confused about erotic anatomy, you are SO not alone! Most of us never learned this stuff in school. For a complete, friendly guided tour of erotic anatomy, we highly recommend spending some time with the brilliant *Atlas of Erotic Anatomy* from sex therapist Cyndi Darnell

What is the G-Spot?

G-spot is a common name for the female prostate, also known as the skene’s gland or the paraurethral gland.

Where is the G-Spot? How Do You Find the G-Spot?

The G-Spot refers to the female prostate, which is found surrounding the urethra just under the bladder. It is best stimulated through the vaginal wall. Slide a finger (after mastering our fingering techniques of course!) into the vagina and bend the fingertip towards the belly button or pubic bone – some describe this as a “come hither” motion. You’ll feel a change in texture in the vaginal wall, a rough or spongy area.

How Can I Best Stimulate the G-Spot?

G-Spot stimulation with fingers or a toy is a common way women experience orgasm. The G-Spot is sometimes stimulated during intercourse, but this is tricky guesswork (the penis has neither the dexterity nor the sensitivity of the fingers) and not the easiest way to explore G-spot stimulation. Once you have experienced g-spot orgasms through fingering, you’ll enjoy more sensation in this area during other types of lovemaking.

What is a G-Spot Orgasm?

Some women who experience strong g-spot sensations and female ejaculation refer to “g-spot orgasms” in reference to the specific range of sensations, physical release and emotional experience of an orgasm that is generated primarily through g-spot stimulation. Some women report g-spot orgasms being highly relaxing and often include elements of emotional release.

Why is there so much controversy around the g-spot?

The G-Spot is one of the most misunderstood areas of sexuality. It is not a mysterious spot that some women have and some women are missing – it is an anatomical structure that all women have, just like all men have a prostate.

The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation have long been subject to controversy and debate amongst sex educator and the medical profession. Thankfully, there is increasing consensus that the female prostate is the anatomical match to the male prostate and shares similar functions.

Do men have a g-spot?

G-spot usually refers to the specific part of the female sexual system, the match to the male prostate. The male p-spot, sometimes called a-spot, can be stimulated via tremendously pleasurable prostate massage. We are huge fans of prostate massage – which is how we became creators of the world’s bestselling video on prostate massage!

How To Touch Breasts

This handbook guides you in how to use your hands and mouth to stimulate your lover’s breasts as part of foreplay, oral sex, intercourse, or as part of a sensual massage. Breast stimulation is almost always in addition to another erotic act – in all of our years as sex educator we have only met a handful of people who enjoyed breast play enough to make it the main course. However you want to include breast play in your erotic life, this guide will give you the techniques and skills to make it more pleasurable.

Many couples find that the breasts are not included in lovemaking as much as they would like. Often, this is simply because the touch that is being offered doesn’t feel all that good, or the variety of sensations is not enough to stay exciting for very long. Men report being at a loss, not knowing exactly what more there is to do beyond pinching the nipples or squeezing the breast.

This handbook covers a wide range of techniques for touching the female breasts. These techniques will create a wide range of sensations, allowing you and your lover to explore the breasts as an erogenous area and see just how much pleasure you can add to your lovemaking.

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Female Ejaculation

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In this episode, we clear up common myths and share the facts about female ejaculation.

Female ejaculation is a normal, healthy expression of female sexuality. For some women it can be highly pleasurable. But it is not a sign of a more “enlightened” sexuality or even more pleasure – it is just one of many kinds of sexual response!

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What Is Female Ejaculation?

Female Ejaculation is the expulsion of fluid, through the urethra, during female arousal. Female ejaculation may or may not occur at the same time as an orgasm, but normally high levels of arousal are needed to create the female ejaculatory response.

Women who ejaculate often report an intensely pleasurable feeling of release, and a different spectrum of sensations from their non-ejaculatory orgasms. Some women ejaculate almost every time they are highly aroused, other women ejaculate very infrequently.

Amount of ejaculate can vary from a small squirt or trickle to a large gush. The most recent research concludes that ejaculation and gushing are distinct sexual processes. Many women confuse the sensations of ejaculation with urination, mostly because they are unfamiliar with the concept of ejaculation or have been shamed by a previous lover.

Female ejaculation usually happens by stimulating the g-spot, the common name for the female prostate. For complete guidance on g-spot stimulation techniques, check out our Foreplay Mastery Course.

The Historical Debates over Female Ejaculation

Female Ejaculation has only recently come out of the closet. While first studied by physicians in the 17th century, and documented in Sexology papers ever since, the knowledge and acceptance of female ejaculation was omitted from Western medical practice until very recently.

Meanwhile, many women have been confused and distressed about their own ejaculatory response- in the passions of sex they feel themselves (or their partners notice) a gush of fluid coming from the urethra. Without knowledge of female ejaculation, the natural assumption is that the fluid is urine. Often this triggers a shame response over having “wet the bed,” but perhaps while cleaning those sheets the women noticed that it didn’t smell like urine, and was not yellow like urine.

Just imagine if men did not know about ejaculation, and there was a cultural silence about it. Young boys would be terrified of masturbation, men would be flocking to the doctors for a diagnosis on the strange white substance coming from their urethra.

The Truth About Female Ejaculation and the Female Prostate

In recent years, sex educators have been on a mission to spread information and normalize female ejaculation and the female prostate. Several books, films and websites now feature female ejaculation. The result is more and more women having the aha! moment of realizing all those times they felt the urge to urinate during arousal or all those times they gushed was actually an experience of female ejaculation.

Both the male and female prostate:

* is a gland, located under the bladder, around the urethra.

* produces hormones.

* during arousal, produces fluid. In men, this fluid, along with semen, travels down the urethra and out of the body during ejaculation. In about 10-54% of females, this fluid is pushed out through the urethra.

* responds to direct and indirect stimulation, and can create strong sexual sensations and powerful orgasms.

The Facts About Female Ejaculation:

* Female ejaculation is not “more enlightened” than other forms of female arousal and pleasure

* Some women love to ejaculate, others find it draining!

* Some women easily ejaculate, others never do!

* To discover how female ejaculation fits into your sexual expression, focus on g-spot stimulation

Recent Studies on Female Ejaculation:

Female Ejaculation Comes In Two Forms (New Scientist)

A 2014 meta analysis of the research on female ejaculation, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, reports that between 10-54% of women experience some form of female ejaculation, where fluid from the female prostate is pushed out through the urethra during arousal. This research also concludes that female ejaculation is a distinct process from the “gushing” and “squirting” orgasms where a large amount of watery fluid is emitted through the urethra. Further research into the chemical composition of the distinct fluids will reveal more about the source and processes of these varieties of female sexual experiences.

More Studies On Female Ejaculation

Anal Masturbation

How to Add Anal Touch to Your Masturbation

The anus is part of your sexual system – male or female, whatever sexual orientation you may be – your anus is a central part of your sexual anatomy. The external anal sphincters have one of the highest densities of nerve endings found anywhere on the human body, and those nerve endings are directly linked up to your arousal and orgasmic responses. So if you choose, anal stimulation can be part of your sexual experiences, both solo and with a partner.

Anal masturbation can amplify your pleasure and offer new sensations during masturbation. Many people find the combination of genital and anal touch to be incredibly intense and love the fullness of sensation offered by engaging all parts of the sexual system at once. Other people like to explore anal stimulation alone, savoring the specific pleasures of anal play. You can choose to explore anal masturbation alone or in combination with genital stimulation and enjoy the full range of experiences available to you!

Including anal touch in your masturbation is a great way to start exploring your erotic response to anal stimulation, long before you choose to explore anal play or prostate massage with a partner. By exploring anal stimulation as part of masturbation, you get to explore on your own terms- as slowly and as gently as you wish.

Many people explore anal masturbation by using their fingers to stimulate the external anal sphincter, either alone or in combination with gential stimulation. Try adding in gentle external circles next time you are masturbating and see how your body responds.

Some people like to explore penetration during anal masturbation. You can contort your body to penetrate yourself during masturbation, but many people find this challenging. Anal masturbation toys can be a great tool to explore deeper stimulation. The Aneros is designed for men but can be enjoyed by women as well, and anal beads and butt plugs also offer a big variety of options to explore solo anal play. Whatever type of toy you choose to explore with, make sure it is specfically designed for anal play, with a wide base to prevent the toy from slipping all the way inside!

Anal Masturbation Vs. Prostate Masturbation

Some men who explore anal masturbation want to include direct stimulation of the prostate. It is important to remember that a lot of the erotic pleasure from anal play comes from stimulation of the nerve endings on the external anal sphincter, and both men and women can experience profound anal pleasure without any penetration at all. Some people love external anal play and never choose to include penetration, others mix it up depending on how they are feeling. Check out our article about prostate masturbation if you are interested in direct stimulation of the prostate during your solo sex explorations!

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