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Sex Positions For Maximum Pleasure

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Want to know which sex positions to explore to heat up your sex life? This podcast discusses why sex positions can make or break your sexual experience. We discuss the five most common sexual positions and how to make them way hotter.

Forget acrobatic sex positions that will leave you uncomfortable and unsatisfied. The best sex positions are the ones where you can stay comfortable long enough to get highly aroused!

A great sex position also allows the more active partner to get good leverage so they can thrust for longer periods of time! Physics has never been so much fun!

Ultimately, a great sex position is one that you enjoy. Factors like height, weight, physical strength, ability and fitness have a lot to do with what sex positions you’ll find pleasurable. So make sure to explore, follow your pleasure and enjoy the process of finding your favorite sex positions! Stop worrying about the 169 acrobatic sex positions you’ve never tried and start focusing on having more fun in the positions you do like!

Reverse Cowgirl Position

Ready to discover a fun sex position that can be hot for both you and your lover? Then saddle up for reverse cowgirl!

The reverse cowgirl position describes intercourse with the female on top, facing away from her partner. Regular cowgirl is woman on top, facing her lover. Switching it up by facing away has a few benefits – and a few warnings. Read on for everything you need to know about the reverse cowgirl position.

Why Reverse Cowgirl is Hot:

Like all female-on-top sex positions, reverse cowgirl puts you in charge of penetration. When you are on top, you get to control the speed, angle and depth of penetration according to what feels best for you. This can be a huge game changer in how pleasurable intercourse feels to you.

Another benefit? You can easily touch your own clitoris while on top. Remember, about 70% of women do not have orgasms though intercourse alone. One of The Pleasure Mechanics Golden Rules for Better Sex is that women have orgasms before intercourse begins so penetration can feel a whole lot better. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation through oral sex or manual stimulation to reach orgasm. So we recommend you train your lover in how to give you orgasms before focusing on adding new sex positions for intercourse! You’ll find that if your lover takes care of you first before you move on to intercourse, you’ll be more aroused and prepared for penetration. To keep the orgasms coming, add clitoral stimulation during intercourse. The Reverse Cowgirl position is great for adding clitoral stimulation as you ride away!

Focus on getting into a good rhythm with your lover. He may be eager to thrust, so hold still and give him a turn. Then ask him to relax and let you ride. Eventually, you’ll be able to find an easy harmony as you synchronize your movements with his and find a rhythm that works for both of you!

The Reverse Cowgirl also gives your lover a great view of your sexy back and butt. A lot of guys love this vision, but some women get shy about how they look during sex. Give it a try, and know that even with a few extra pounds, your curves look glorious and he’ll love seeing your hips move! Try looking coyly over your shoulder as you move: we guarantee he’ll love the flirtatious glances!

Reverse Cowgirl Challenges:

As hot as Reverse Cowgirl can be, there are a few challenges with this sex position. The biggest challenge is that many men have a penis that is gently curved towards the belly button. In front-facing sex position this angle works to your advantage as the head is more likely to hit the sensitive front wall of the vagina. When you turn around, as in Reverse Cowgirl, the curvature is pointed away from your g-spot. Try it out and notice if it makes a big difference in your experience or not.

The best way to negotiate his curvature in the Reverse Cowgirl positions is to lean back as you ride. Instead of leaning forward towards his feet, lean back towards his chest. Plant your hands on his chest or along each side of his body so your torso is at an angle, leaning back towards your lover’s head. This will align your opening with the angle of his penis, making penetration a bit more comfortable for both of you.

Another challenge? It is hard work being on top! Both Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl are true tests of your sexual fitness. You can be on top in a deep squat, using your powerful thigh muscles to bounce up and down. Or, you can be on your knees and move up and down from there. If you have a hard time keeping up momentum in the Reverse Cowgirl position, try taking your lovemaking to the couch. Have your lover sit on the couch, then sit on back while keeping your feet firmly planted on the floor. You’ll find this is probably way more comfortable than squatting over your lover in bed! Plus, having sex in different places adds the essential element of novelty to your sex life!

If you find yourself shy about being on top, try blindfolding your guy. By denying him his sense of sight, you’ll heighten his other senses which will make the feeling of you being on top even hotter for him. But the real bonus? You can stop worrying about how you look and get totally focused on the sensations and making the sex feel amazing. Without worrying about your performance, you’ll hopefully feel more free to let your hips move as you undulate and thrust in all the ways that feel best to you!

Remember, great sex isn’t about wild sex positions, it is about sharing exquisite pleasure with your partner. Allow your explorations of Reverse Cowgirl and other sex positions to simply be part of the fun, not a stressful goal. If one positions doesn’t work for you, try another. And remember to get your own orgasmic needs met first – train your man in the art of oral sex and fingering so he can lavish you with pleasure before intercourse even begins! Then you’ll find penetration and intercourse becomes much more pleasurable and possibly even orgasmic!

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Many people want to know what new sex positions to try to spice up their sex life. The truth is, sex positions matter much less than most people believe!

The key is to be free enough with one another to experiment, move around and try out new positions to maximize your mutual pleasure.

Some factors to consider when trying out new sex positions:

Clitoral Stimulation: 70% of women do not have orgasms during intercourse. To make intercourse more pleasurable for her, find positions where one or both of you can actively stimulate the clitoris with your hands during penetration
Depth of Penetration: Try different positions and notice how deep you are able to penetrate. Sometimes you’ll want more penetration, other times you’ll want more shallow penetration to stimulate the g-spot.
Pelvic Movement: Find positions where you are able to move your pelvis freely! Moving the pelvis in thrusting and undulating movements can greatly increase sexual pleasure. So try moving more during sex and see how it feels!
Take Turns Being In Charge: Some positions allow one partner or the other to control the depth and speed of penetration. Move around to take turns being in charge!
Use high quality sex furniture to open up new positions, support your body and make sex way more comfortable for you both!

Podcast Episodes About Positions For Better Sex

Queening

Assume The Position: The Erotic Act of Queening

Queening

Queening is the art of facesitting, usually but not exclusively with a female on top, immersing the lucky human beneath her in the full glory of her genitals.

Some queening fans use stools or boxes especially designed for the purpose, either for comfort or for the added effect of a “throne” or the restraint of a “smothering box.”

The position of Queening allows the woman on top to control the amount of contact between her genitals and her lover’s tongue and mouth. This can be used strategically to tease, to smother, to immerse, to taunt, to tantalize.

Queening is best approached with an attitude of worship towards the woman on top. Many people who like to be “on the bottom” in this scenario simply love the full facial contact with the pussy, love feeling smothered with the weight of their lover, enjoy being out of control and submitted to the act of bringing pleasure to their lover.

It can take confidence to assume the queening position. If your partner is eager to try it out, try to trust their enthusiasm and see if you can find the pleasure in their arousal. Some women find it hard to climax while in the queening position. If this is the case, try out this position for short periods of time and then switch to a position that you can relax into as you approach orgasm.

For more on how to enjoy amazing oral sex, check out The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Cunnilingus, included in the Foreplay Mastery Course .

This complete guide covers queening and other positions for amazing oral sex, as well as extensive techniques for giving amazing oral stimulation, communication techniques and strategies to overcome roadblocks that prevent you from enjoying the pleasures of oral sex.

Yab Yum

Yab Yum is a posture used in neo-Tantra, where one partner sits cross legged or with legs extended. The other partner sits facing them in the lap, legs wrapped around their waist. Both partners place their right hand on the nape of their partner’s neck, and their left hand at the small of their lover’s back

Yab Yum (yabyum to some!) is a very intimate posture, allowing full body contact, while being able to look right in one another’s eyes.

This posture can be done with our without penetration. It is often used as a posture for breathing practices and intimacy exercises.