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Like It Rough? How To Get Started

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Rough sex is one of the most common sexual fantasies for men and women alike.

Rough sex isn’t violent! Violence is about the intent to harm. Rough sex is all about pleasure! Rough sex means amping up the intensity in order to create more extreme sensations and to feel the power of your bodies coming together.

There is a huge spectrum of rough sex – from mild to wild. In this podcast episode, we share how to get started in your rough sex explorations, without risking your health, safety or relationship.

Far too many people let rough sex stay in their fantasy alone: here is how to get started with exploring rougher sex!

One of the best ways to explore rough sex is erotic spanking. If you want to master the skills of spanking your lover for intense pleasure, check out our comprehensive online course: Erotic Spanking Mastery.

Ultimate Guide To Sexual Fantasy

UltimateGuidetoSexualFantasy2e_hiresViolet Blue’s The Ultimate Guide To Sexual Fantasy is an encyclopedia of sexual fantasies – both common and obscure. Use it to prime your erotic imagination or to discover fantasies you never knew you had!

We hear from so many women who say “I just don’t know what I want in bed!” If that sounds like something you might say, be sure to check out this book for 200+ pages of ideas to inspire you.

Once you’ve zeroed in on a few fantasies that peak your interest, check out Violet Blue’s pointers on how to get started exploring, alone or with a lover. Because the book covers so many different fantasies, none of the how-to advice is extensive, but it is enough to get you started or help you flesh out your ideas of what you’d like to try.

Violet Blue writes that “sexual fantasies truly are Mother Nature’s 100 percent natural, guaranteed aphrodisiac” and encourages you to explore freely to find what might turn you on. Her relaxed attitude about everything from erotic role playing to more extreme fetishes will help you explore corners of the sexual galaxy you may have once considered beyond your scope. Read this book cover to cover and you’ll find your erotic horizons expanded, sometimes in directions you were least expecting.

Here at PleasureMechanics.com we invite you to maintain a strict boundary between fantasy and desire. Fantasy is the realm of your erotic imagination, where anything is possible and there are no real-world limitations or consequences. Desire is what you actually want to make happen in your real life. Creating this distinction gives you permission to enjoy limitless sexual fantasy, where you can explore and discover what turns you on. It also helps you determine your actual desires so you can take steps to create the sex life you really want.

This book can help you expand your idea of what is sexually possible – and once you do, we’ll be here to guide you every step of the way as you create the sex life of your dreams. Happy exploring!

Is Your Smartphone Ruining Your Sex Life?

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Is Your Smartphone Ruining Your Sex Life?

Is your cell phone ruining your relationship? It may be a much bigger threat to your love life than you know. In this podcast, we talk about how smartphones can threaten your most intimate relationships, and offer strategies for using technology to enhance your love life.

Science has only just begun studying the long term effects of ever-on internet and smartphones. The initial findings indicate that the more you use your cell phone (especially in the presence of your loved ones) the less happy you’ll be and the lonelier you will feel. People are starting to report feeling jealous of their lover’s cell phones – JEALOUS of a 5 inch computer!

Ultimately, what is at stake is nothing less than our relationships and happiness. If you don’t take active steps to use technology to your advantage, it may have long term negative impact on what is most important to you.

So listen in and let’s get real about the relationship between technology and intimacy! We invite you to become master of your own domain, rather than a servant to the cruel mistress of your smartphone!

 

Sensual Dance Playlist

When our YouTube account was deleted (after over 10 million views of our educational talks, we got censored!) we also lost our playlists, and have chosen not to rebuild them. 

Have fun finding music that makes YOU feel good as you move! 

For more about dancing as a Pleasure Practice, join our membership area The Pleasure Pod and get access to our Pleasure Practices Library!

 

Orgasmic Intercourse

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Orgasmic IntercourseA listener wrote in to share his favorite technique for orgasmic intercourse. This technique brings together many of the strategies we advocate, such as female arousal before penetration, graceful penetration and maintaining clitoral stimulation during intercourse. Listen to the episode to get a play-by-play description of the technique and then try it and see if it works for you!

 

Here is the original email from Tony:

Name: Tony

Comment: No need to reply.  Love the show and Please pass this on to your listeners, many of my mates have benefited from it.

I have been married to the same woman now for 23 years. We are very happy and have a active sex life. The reason for this post is to share with you a technique that you may or may not have already stumbled upon. It is a technique that will cause my partner to cum during intercourse without rubbing or playing with any of her buttons. In otherwords, auto-pilot. My wife has always been very orgasmic, however she has never been able to climax by intercourse alone. I always had to rub or lick her clit for this. Now, since we stumbled upon this (why it took 18 years to stumble upon it is beyond me) she cums almost immediately during sex almost every time! She absolutely loves this technique and asks for it all the time.  But I don’t always give it more than once maybe twice a week.

Now this is not a new idea at all. I am sure I did not make it up and you may have been doing this all along but I have not. I just stumbled upon it a few years ago. I have been culturing and practicing it to a fine art. It works for me every time and everyone that I have shared this with always ALWAYS tells me a few days afterwards how GREAT it works. I have only had intercourse with one woman in my life, my wife, so I cannot tell you first hand about any other woman’s reaction to this technique but all of my friends, bar none, RAVE about the results.

Here’s how it works.

Get her all hot and bothered with whatever style that will work for you both. Do a bit of foreplay but not too far. You don’t want her to the point of no return just yet. Get on top of her in missionary position ( i know your not keen on that position)  start kissing her. When she is begging for insertion, only put the head in very slowly. Then take it out and then put it in again. Only the head. Do this for 3-4 times very slowly. Then put it in about 1 inch more and then out all the way. Do this for 3-4 times very slowly. You MUST resist the urge to bang this her hard even though she will be begging you to at this point. Then go in 1 inch deeper and out all the way 3-4 times again. Now do this, and inch at a time until you are balls deep in this Her. If you and she likes, kiss her and talk dirty to her or what ever would keep her building energy.  This will be a very intimate time for both of you so get ready.

Now you are all the way in and she is REALLY turned on. DO NOT start pounding yet. This will come later. Instead start nudging or bumping your partner with your pubic bone ( not the same as the C. A. T. position, but you can transition to it ). Do not withdraw your penis at all. Leave it in all the way. Instead you just keep pushing in pulsations and then letting up, your pube to her pube. In other words, no time will your pubes separate but you put light pressure off and on in a rythym generated by your own hips. Kind of like if you are trying to push a refrigerator across the floor. You don’t take your hands off and then slam them back on, right. In the same way, do not pull your dick out at all. Instead, leave it in all the way and keep nudging in a rythym. I hope I am explaining this correctly because this is the most important part of the technique. Every once in a while, maybe every ten times give her a good strong nudge. This will really drive her crazy! Make her lay still if she can. She may be so hot at this point that she goes crazy, this is ok as well, you can complete the technique next time around if she can’t hold out. But if you can keep that pressure, bone to bone and ride her movements with full contact then she will explode with joy.

Now, if done right, this girl will absolutely go over the edge within just a few moments after insertion. BTW, this is a good technique for all of you Premature Ejaculators because it is a lot easier to keep from cuming because you are not going in and out. You may get scratches on your back, she may scream or cry but it will be probably the biggest orgasm she has ever experienced so get ready for whatever her reaction may be. While she is cuming, just keep up the pushing, nudging motion. When she is done it is your turn to drive it home, or rest and move into the c.a.t. Position for more fun.  I am not kidding! It has worked EXACTLY like this for me many dozens of times, and EVERY one of my friends that have tried it.

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