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Erotic Spanking 101

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Curious about exploring the pleasures of erotic spanking? Learn how to get the exact kind of spanking you desire: from gentle to rough. We cover how to negotiate with your lover to get clear about what you want to explore, how to keep a spanking safe and pleasurable, and ways to make spanking hot for both the giver and receiver.

Erotic spanking can be an amazing, intense sexual experience. Or, it can be an erotic disaster. In this podcast, we discuss the techniques and strategies to make sure your erotic spankings explorations are as pleasurable as possible.

Want to master the skill of erotic spanking? Check out our online course: Erotic Spanking Mastery

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Erotic Spanking Mastery Online Course

Vulva

Clitoris Diagram The word vulva refers to the external genitals. The word vagina refers just to the internal shaft. Neither of these terms, nor any of the slang for female genitals, accurately reflects the entire sexual system.

The vulva includes the labia, the clitoris and the area around the entrance to the vagina. The vulva is where most women experience the most pleasure, especially the clitoris. For our stroke-by-stroke video guide to pleasure the entire female sexual system, including clitoral stimulation and internal vaginal and g-spot stimulation, check out our Foreplay Mastery Course.

Oral Sex

Oral Sex is an immensely pleasurable and intimate act. “Oral sex” usually describes the act of bringing your lover to climax using your mouth, lips and tongue. Many people love receiving oral sex – the warm, wet sensations of oral pleasure is an experience that is incomparable, and can’t be recreated with any sex toy.

Ready to master Oral Artistry? Join our online course for an immersive exploration of oral pleasure for ALL bodies.

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Blowjobs

For many guys, blowjobs are one of the best kinds of sex. Oral sex is an amazing opportunity to simply relax and receive, allowing all of your attention to focus on the sensations and arousal you are feeling. Many guys spend a lot of time in sex being really active – blowjobs are a great opportunity for men to enjoy simply receiving.

We get a lot of questions about how to give a better blowjob. The easy answer? Enthusiasm. Let your guy know that you are enjoying going down on him, that is something you can enjoy doing, not just a favor or a chore.

It is also essential to learn how to use your hands in combination with your mouth to stimulate the entire penis. Even if you can deep throat for a little while, there is no way to get the amount of pressure and stimulation that most men want with your mouth alone. So master your handjob skills, and then coordinate your hands and mouth – your hands stimulating the shaft of his penis while your mouth focuses on the sensitive head.

How To Give The Best Blowjob Ever

We are currently running sex surveys for both givers and receivers of oral sex for men. Here are some tips and suggestions gathered so far. Take the surveys and contribute your own sex wisdom about how to give great blowjobs!

How Women Feel About Giving Blowjobs:

Some women love giving blowjobs, others hate it. The whole range of feelings about giving oral sex were reflected in our survey responses:

“The feelings in my mouth and pussy are symbiotic – one enhances the other. Sometimes I can come just from sucking cock (with a few nipple tweaks to help!)”

“Honestly, I ONLY enjoy giving oral sex to get his cock wet enough for penetration. Otherwise I don’t enjoy it but I will still sometimes do it if we are mutually masturbating and he wants me to finish him off with my mouth.”

What Men Can Do For Better Blowjobs:

“Wash. Trim. Be engaged-let us know if what we’re doing is working for you. Let us know if it isn’t. But DON’T just sit there and wait through something that’s just kind of meh. Know where the “I love playing with your cock”-“oh my gosh my jaw and arms are tired, stop thinking about your grandparents” line is. And don’t cross it. We like pleasing you. Don’t drag it out forever though!”

“Caress and touch me sensually, the more aroused I become the more aggressive and passionate I become towards his penis.”

“I love it if he gently holds my hair back, but if his hands get hard and he holds my head like he’s fucking a cantaloupe, forget it!”

Queening

Assume The Position: The Erotic Act of Queening

Queening

Queening is the art of facesitting, usually but not exclusively with a female on top, immersing the lucky human beneath her in the full glory of her genitals.

Some queening fans use stools or boxes especially designed for the purpose, either for comfort or for the added effect of a “throne” or the restraint of a “smothering box.”

The position of Queening allows the woman on top to control the amount of contact between her genitals and her lover’s tongue and mouth. This can be used strategically to tease, to smother, to immerse, to taunt, to tantalize.

Queening is best approached with an attitude of worship towards the woman on top. Many people who like to be “on the bottom” in this scenario simply love the full facial contact with the pussy, love feeling smothered with the weight of their lover, enjoy being out of control and submitted to the act of bringing pleasure to their lover.

It can take confidence to assume the queening position. If your partner is eager to try it out, try to trust their enthusiasm and see if you can find the pleasure in their arousal. Some women find it hard to climax while in the queening position. If this is the case, try out this position for short periods of time and then switch to a position that you can relax into as you approach orgasm.

For more on how to enjoy amazing oral sex, check out The Pleasure Mechanics Guide to Cunnilingus, included in the Foreplay Mastery Course .

This complete guide covers queening and other positions for amazing oral sex, as well as extensive techniques for giving amazing oral stimulation, communication techniques and strategies to overcome roadblocks that prevent you from enjoying the pleasures of oral sex.