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Nipple Stimulation: DOs and DON’Ts

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Discover how to touch the female breasts and nipples for maximum pleasure.

All too often, the breasts are left out of foreplay because women are sick of their nipples being pinched too roughly without any warm up.

We share strategies on how to touch the breasts with more skill and confidence!

Nipple Stimulation DOs and DON’TS

DO remember that nipple sensitivity changes dramatically from moment to moment!
DON’T ever go straight for the nipple!
DO warm up the entire body, chest and breasts before even thinking about touching her nipples!
DO learn how to touch the entire breasts and nipples with masterful skills!
DON’T pinch the nipples until she is begging for more pressure!
DO learn 5 kinds of nipple stimulation in our Guide to Breast Massage, included in our Foreplay Mastery Course
DO make her feel good about her breasts by complimenting them often!
DON’T ever tease her about her breasts, their size or what they look like!
DON’T suck hard when you are doing nipple stimulation with your mouth (until she is ready!)
DO learn how to practice nipple stimulation on a raspberry (details in the podcast!)
DO pay attention so you can learn what kinds of nipple stimulation she likes best!

5 Ways To Pamper Your Woman

Pamper Your Woman Go ahead and buy her flowers and chocolates, but don’t stop there! To truly express your love and appreciation for the woman in your life, go the extra mile and truly lavish her. A birthday, job promotion or anniversary are great times to pamper the lady you love – but these ideas are for any day of the year!

1. Express Yourself!

Write a love letter, and include specific reasons you appreciate and value her. The more specific, the better. Don’t just say “Thanks for being a great mom!” Instead, say “Thanks for being patient and kind with our kids. Thank you for making family dinner so fun with your stories.” Think about the specific reason that you love her as a unique woman. Specific gratitudes and compliments are WAY more romantic than general ones! Write out your letter in a card or on a simple piece of paper and leave it somewhere for her to discover. She’ll likely keep it forever!

2. Give her a foot massage!

Invite her to relax on a chair or the couch and sit at her feet. If you really want to go the extra mile, bring a basin of warm water with a few drops of essential oil and let her soak her feet before you begin. Then, one foot at a time, give her a deep, satisfying foot massage. Master foot massage skills with our Couples Massage Mastery Course before you begin and you’ll have her swooning! Remember, even five or ten minutes of foot massage can create a full body wave of relaxation – so you can squeeze a great foot massage in even on busy nights!

3. Send her away!

Give your lady an envelope with some cash ($20-$50 depending on your budget) and tell her that she can’t come home for at least two hours. Suggest she takes herself out to a coffee shop, meet friends for lunch or go to a movie. She may hesitate or protest, but be firm in your resolve to give her alone time. Send her away with a huge hug and a long kiss. While she is out, clean the house (if you can afford it, hire a cleaner!) Even a simple sweep of the house will do wonders: clean the kitchen, put away the laundry, and put fresh flowers on the kitchen table. Want bonus points? Be waiting for her when she returns with a bottle of wine, a few cupcakes or a nice dinner prepared. She’ll be grateful for the mini-vacation and eager to reconnect with you!

4. Run her a bath!

Go to the grocery store and purchase the following items: Epsom Salts, Lavender Oil or Bubble Bath, Tea Light Candles, Her Favorite Beverage and a bouquet of flowers. In the evening, ask her if she’d like a bath. Then take your time to set it up for her. Make sure to clean the bathroom before you get started (most women WILL notice if the bathtub is dirty! Make it sparkle!) Then run a hot bath, adding a cup or two of epsom salts and some oil or bubble bath for scent. Light a dozen small candles and scatter them around the room. Arrange the flowers in a nice vase. Let the tub fill up, making the room nice and steamy. Fold a clean towel for her. Then, escort her into the room, kiss her forehead and invite her to simply take her time and enjoy. If you have kids, take them out of the house for an hour so she can have uninterrupted time to herself.

5. Give Her What She Really Wants!

Pampering comes in many forms – including intense sensation if that is what she is truly craving. A lot of busy woman crave the release of intense stimulation and loving dominance. If she’s been reading 50 Shades of Grey or has expressed any interest in experimenting with rough sex, ask her if she would be interested in exploring erotic spanking! Grab our course on Erotic Spanking and watch it together, asking her to point out specific techniques and positions she finds most exciting. Then, claim your erotic power and give her a beautiful spanking. The video will show you how to build up from a gentle warm-up to a highly arousing climax, and how to make sure it is purely pleasurable every step of the way. Sometimes, being loving can mean being firm and giving her an experience of erotic intensity!

Pamper Her With Your Attention!

Ultimately, pampering a woman is about lavishing her with attention, love and praise. Everyone has a different combination of time, money and energy – so figure out what you have to give and be as generous as you can! But no matter how busy you are, you can create moments of intimate connection by sharing kind words, specific compliments and expressions of gratitude.

Whether it is for Mother’s Day, her birthday, your anniversary or for a “no reason” celebration, try to pay specific attention and figure out what your lover needs most. Does she need time alone, or does she want to be pampered with massage? Is she ready for a sexual adventure like erotic spanking, or does she need a night to simply relax? Only by paying attention will you know what she really needs – and once you give her what she authentically desires, you’ll discover the thrill of creating a fulfilling sex life together.

Swinging: Should We Try It?

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A listener wrote in wanting to know if we would recommend swinging to create a sense of novelty in his long term relationship. While swinging can be fun for some couples, it only works if both partners are excited about it and enthusiastically participating. Since his wife is reluctant to try swinging, we give him some ideas on how to create novelty and a sense of erotic adventure – while deepening his commitment to his marriage at the same time.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode:

Erotic Spanking Mastery Course

Couples Massage Mastery Course

Esther Perel TED Talk:

Prostate

What Is The Prostate?

The prostate is a gland, located just below the bladder and sheathed in the musculature of the pelvic floor, the same muscles that contract during orgasm and ejaculation. The urethra runs from the bladder, directly through the prostate gland and out through the penis. The prostate gland plays a central role in the male sexual system. Within the gland, tiny ducts called acini produce prostatic fluid. This fluid mixes with sperm and fluid from the seminal vesicles to become the male ejaculate.

What Does The Prostate Have To Do With Sex?

The prostate is part of the male sexual system. It was active and involved in every ejaculation you have ever had up to this point, you just may not have been aware of it!

The contractions you feel just before ejaculation, when the muscles deep in your pelvis tense and relax spontaneously, activate the prostate and squeeze fluid from the prostate into the urethra. So the prostate is already part of your sexual experience – by stimulating it directly you are just accessing more pleasure and sensation from this important part of your sexual anatomy.

Some men enjoy direct stimulation of their prostate as a sex act – prostate massage and external prostate stimulation are highly pleasurable acts that men of any orientation can enjoy. Many men who love prostate massage report that they experience more powerful orgasms and more satisfying sex when they include prostate stimulation.

For a complete guide on exploring anal stimulation and prostate massage, check out our best selling online course about prostate massage.

Why Does Prostate Stimulation Feel Good? What Are Prostate Orgasms All About?

Prostate massage and anal play activate a huge part of the male sexual system. First, you ignite all of the nerve endings of the external anal area, which are directly tapped into your arousal system. With internal stimulation you can reach the prostate and the internal root of the penis – which many guys report “makes their cock feel twice as big!”

Does Anal Play Make You Gay?

A lot of straight guys are super interested in anal play and prostate massage – with good reason! These regions are part of EVERY sexual system. What you do in your sex life doesn’t make you straight or gay. Sexual activity (what you do) is not the same as sexual orientation (who you do it with). Straight men all over the world are discovering the power of prostate orgasms – are you next?

Speaking of Sex Episodes About Prostate Pleasures

Prostate Massage Book

As the producers of the #1 best selling video on prostate massage in the world, we were asked to pour all of our prostate massage knowledge into an easy-to-read reference book. Here is your how-to manual for erotic prostate stimulation.

This handbook cover all the basic questions about erotic prostate massage: what it is, why men are into it, and how to begin exploring it with your lover. Learn highly pleasurable techniques for external stimulation, internal prostate massage, perineal stimulation and how to combine prostate massage with erotic touch of the penis for a highly arousing experience.

Many men report that prostate stimulation brings them to new sexual heights, as they experience stronger erections, longer periods of arousal, and more intense orgasms. It is the hottest new trend in male sexuality – and if you are reading this, you are probably curious about the pleasure it can offer you.

This handbook is the only book you need to begin integrating the pleasures of prostate massage into the sex life you already enjoy. Complete with information for partners, communication advice and tips for overcoming the most common roadblocks, this handbook provides everything you need to get started exploring the pleasures of prostate massage.