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Erotic Spanking Book

Ready to discover the thrills of erotic spanking? This book is your guide to enjoying erotic spanking.

This ebook is a great read to help you get started exploring erotic spanking with your partner. When you are ready to master the skills of erotic spanking, grab our stroke-by-stroke video guide on the Art of Erotic Spanking

Learn how to share the sensual thrills of erotic spanking with your lover. Spanking is one of the most common sexual fantasies for both men and women, with good reason. A great spanking can create intense sexual sensations and offer erotic highs that last for days. Learn how to spank for maximum pleasure and unforgettable erotic thrills.

This book guides you step-by-step in enjoying erotic spankings with your lover. You’ll learn the essential techniques of spanking, including five ways to use your hands to create a wide range of sensations and five hot positions (including one you’ve probably never seen before!) Precise instructions give you a solid foundation to creating both rhythm and variety, the key to an unforgettable sexual spanking experience. Covering the range from tender, loving spankings to rough, dominant spankings, this book is your guide to create a unique sexual experience that meets your specific desires.

Nervous about spanking your lover? Verbal and non-verbal communication techniques will assure you experience the kind of erotic spanking you crave and help you avoid dramatic meltdowns. Learn how to fine-tune your spanking so you can create the intensity you are looking for without hurting or injuring your partner.

Ready to experience the thrills of erotic spanking? Learn how to amp up the intensity of your spankings with delicious sensual additions, find out how to use sex toys during a spanking and how to integrate spanking into your sex life. Discover how to create the intense highs that so many of us crave in our sex lives, and how to take your lover on a sensual journey that melds pleasure and pain into a delicious symphony of sensation.

Painless Anal Sex

We believe anal sex can be 100% pleasurable and 100% pain free. It can be a healthy part of any woman’s sex life!

Want to explore safe, pleasurable anal sex? Get started with our free resource on anal play.

Sexting Tips

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Is sexting just for teens? How can adults use sexting to have a happier sex life? In this free podcast, we tackle the topic of sexting and provide guidance on mature, smart ways to use sexting in your grown up relationship! We offer practical sexting tips to make sexting more fun and more effective for creating the sex life you want!

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Sexting Tips:

Here are a few brief sexting tips. We go into way more detail in the podcast episode!

Use a private messaging app to keep your sexting separate from the rest of your texting, so you never get caught in an embarrassing moment!
Remember that anything you sext is out there forever, so don’t sext and regret it later!
Tell your lover exactly what kind of language turns you on (especially for body parts and sex acts)
Don’t be a sexting tease: follow through with your promises!
Be honest: sext about what you really enjoy doing, so sexting can enhance your sex life and you can avoid confusion
Play on the spectrum from flirty to raunchy – what kind of sexting do you like best?
Make sexting more romantic! Share moments of pleasure, gratitude and celebration with your lover via text. Also don’t forget to use texting to give your lover praise and compliments!

Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Between App

Is Porn Sabotaging Your Relationship?

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What happens when using porn gets in the way of a good relationship? A listener wrote in wanting to know what to do after catching her boyfriend using porn.

We share an amazing resource that looks at the long term effects of porn on the male brain, including the all too common issue of porn induced erectile dysfunction.

Is watching porn to blame for his inability to be intimate with her? What can be done without demonizing porn itself?

We dive deep to explore this common issue and provide advice and strategies for couples who want to make sure that porn doesn’t get in the way of their sex life!

We would love to hear from YOU about how porn affects your sex life – whether you’ve found that porn has caused you to struggle with erections, you struggle with balancing porn and your relationship or you’ve found a way to use porn in a healthy way, we want to hear from you! Contact us here.

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Full text of the letter that inspired this episode:

Question:: Hi ladies,
I’m asking your opinion about something because I trust your advice, and so far the internet has given me mixed answers. The other night I came home early to walk in on my partner (of 2 years) jerking off to porn. This came at sort of a bad time, as I was already feeling like we were in a bit of a rut and was hoping to talk to him about it. That night I was just looking forward to getting home from work and spending time with him, maybe having sex.

What I feel now is hurt, excluded, disappointed, and a little disgusted. I know I’m not supposed to feel any of those things, that porn is something all guys look at at some point in their lives, and I guess many women too. It has never appealed to me; in fact I find it incredibly sexist. My man isn’t sexist about anything else, and usually very vocal about women’s liberation and social equality, so it’s hard for me to reconcile that version of him with the one I saw the other night.

Also I feel like he is spending sexual energy away from me. He says he uses it only as a physical stimulus, to get off when I’ve been busy or unavailable for sex, and that it is completely separate from our relationship. I suspect he is only telling me what he thinks I want to hear, though. And there have been times when I’ve initiated sex and he can’t perform because he’s already masturbated that day.

It’s not the masturbation I have trouble with – I accept that as perfectly normal! It just never occurred to me that there was porn involved. He won’t masturbate in front of me (I’ve asked) and says that masturbation/porn is a very personal time for him. I’m now taking that to mean that he has a sexual (if not emotional) connection with these imaginary women, who he also views as “sexually liberated,” which must mean he thinks I’m not sexually liberated.

This has all been one big emotional mess for me and I would appreciate any advice you have at all. It feels like he’s cheating, even though most sources say it’s not. He thinks its not, because it’s not emotional. Am I completely in the wrong to feel like this? I think my relationship depends on whether I can accept this or not. I’ve said all of this to him, but the conversation just goes around in circles and we can’t seem to reach any mutual understanding. I would like to know what other women think.
Sorry for the long message. Cheers,

Bi Curious

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Bi Curious, Bisexual, or Just Fantasizing?

A listener writes in wanting to know if her bisexual fantasies means that she is bisexual. If she is bi, does that mean she needs to tell her boyfriend? Should she try to make her bisexual fantasies a reality, or just stay secretly bi curious?

We explore the complexity of sexual desire, how to tell a fantasy from a desire and the ethics of fantasizing during sex with your partner.

We also offer a range of options for exploring bi curious desires without risking your relationship.

Being bi curious doesn’t mean that you are going to cheat on your partner, or that you need to feel guilty about your fantasies. Being bi curious just means you – like all the rest of your fellow humans – are a complex erotic being! Human desire is not simple, so you don’t need to feel upset about your bi curious feelings. You can choose to have a conversation with your lover and share your bi curious fantasies, or keep your fantasies to yourself!

Many people choose to explore their bi curious desires by having a threesome. Threesomes can be a great way to explore same sex desire – or they can be an erotic disaster! If you want to explore the possibility of having a threesome, grab your copy of our book How To Have A Threesome. Don’t even TRY to have a threesome without it!