Ready to discover a fun sex position that can be hot for both you and your lover? Then saddle up for reverse cowgirl! 

The reverse cowgirl position describes intercourse with the female on top, facing away from her partner. Regular cowgirl is woman on top, facing her lover. Switching it up by facing away has a few benefits – and a few warnings. Read on for everything you need to know about the reverse cowgirl position.

Why Reverse Cowgirl is Hot:

Like all female-on-top sex positions, reverse cowgirl puts you in charge of penetration. When you are on top, you get to control the speed, angle and depth of penetration according to what feels best for you. This can be a huge game changer in how pleasurable intercourse feels to  you.

Another benefit? You can easily touch your own clitoris while on top. Remember, about 70% of women do not have orgasms though intercourse alone. One of The Pleasure Mechanics Golden Rules for Better Sex is that women have orgasms before intercourse begins so penetration can feel a whole lot better. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation through oral sex or manual stimulation to reach orgasm. So we recommend you train your lover in how to give you orgasms before focusing on adding new sex positions for intercourse! You’ll find that if your lover takes care of you first before you move on to intercourse, you’ll be more aroused and prepared for penetration. To keep the orgasms coming, add clitoral stimulation during intercourse. The Reverse Cowgirl position is great for adding clitoral stimulation as you ride away! 

Focus on getting into a good rhythm with your lover. He may be eager to thrust, so hold still and give him a turn. Then ask him to relax and let you ride. Eventually, you’ll be able to find an easy harmony as you synchronize your movements with his and find a rhythm that works for both of you!

The Reverse Cowgirl also gives your lover a great view of your sexy back and butt. A lot of guys love this vision, but some women get shy about how they look during sex. Give it a try, and know that even with a few extra pounds, your curves look glorious and he’ll love seeing your hips move! Try looking coyly over your shoulder as you move: we guarantee he’ll love the flirtatious glances!

Reverse Cowgirl Challenges:

As hot as Reverse Cowgirl can be, there are a few challenges with this sex position. The biggest challenge is that many men have a penis that is gently curved towards the belly button. In front-facing sex position this angle works to your advantage as the head is more likely to hit the sensitive front wall of the vagina. When you turn around, as in Reverse Cowgirl, the curvature is pointed away from your g-spot. Try it out and notice if it makes a big difference in your experience or not. 

The best way to negotiate his curvature in the Reverse Cowgirl positions is to lean back as you ride. Instead of leaning forward towards his feet, lean back towards his chest. Plant your hands on his chest or along each side of his body so your torso is at an angle, leaning back towards your lover’s head. This will align your opening with the angle of his penis, making penetration a bit more comfortable for both of you. 

Another challenge? It is hard work being on top! Both Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl are true tests of your sexual fitness. You can be on top in a deep squat, using your powerful thigh muscles to bounce up and down. Or, you can be on  your knees and move up and down from there. If you have a hard time keeping up momentum in the Reverse Cowgirl position, try taking your lovemaking to the couch. Have your lover sit on the couch, then sit on back while keeping your feet firmly planted on the floor. You’ll find this is probably way more comfortable than squatting over your lover in bed! Plus, having sex in different places adds the essential element of novelty to your sex life!

If you find yourself shy about being on top, try blindfolding your guy. By denying him his sense of sight, you’ll heighten his other senses which will make the feeling of you being on top even hotter for him. But the real bonus? You can stop worrying about how you look and get totally focused on the sensations and making the sex feel amazing. Without worrying about your performance, you’ll hopefully feel more free to let your hips move as you undulate and thrust in all the ways that feel best to you!

Remember, great sex isn’t about wild sex positions, it is about sharing exquisite pleasure with your partner. Allow your explorations of Reverse Cowgirl and other sex positions to simply be part of the fun, not a stressful goal. If one positions doesn’t work for you, try another. And remember to get your own orgasmic needs met first – train your man in the art of oral sex and fingering so he can lavish you with pleasure before intercourse even begins! Then you’ll find penetration and intercourse becomes much more pleasurable and possibly even orgasmic! 

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