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Episode #001: Female Orgasm During Intercourse
Episode #002: Last Longer In Bed
Episode #003: How To Master Cunnilingus
Episode #004: How To Get More Erotic Prostate Massage
Episode #005: Erotic Spanking 101
Episode #006: Wife Doesn’t Want Sex? Here’s What To Do!
Episode #007: How To Share Sexual Fantasies With Your Lover
Episode #008: Help! My Wife Doesn’t Enjoy Sex! (archived)
Episode #009: Am I Addicted To My Vibrator?
Episode #010: How To Have A Threesome
Episode #011: How To Have Multiple Orgasms
Episode #012: Sharing Your Desires With A Defensive Partner
Episode #013: Does Penis Size Matter?
Episode #014: Sex Culture, Erotica & Fantasy: A Conversation With Rachel Kramer Bussel
Episode #015: Confessions of a Foot Fetishist
Episode #017: How To Have Anal Sex
Episode #018: New To BDSM? How To Start Exploring
Episode #019: How To Prolong Foreplay
Episode #020: Female Masturbation Techniques
Episode #021: The Pleasures of Pegging
Episode #022: How To Prevent Cheating
Episode #024: Married And Flirting
Episode #025: The Beginner’s Guide to Great Sex
Episode #026: Fellatio! How To Love Going Down
Episode #027: Is My Boyfriend Gay?
Episode #028: Top 10 Reasons To Love Erotic Spanking
Episode #029: The Facts on Female Ejaculation
Episode #030: Marriage Threatened By Porn
Episode #031: Erotic Spanking – From Fantasy to Reality
Episode #032: Married & Flirting Part 2
Episode #033: Bondage Basics For Better Sex
Episode #034: Bi Curious? Bisexual? Or Just Fantasizing?
Episode #035: Is Porn Sabotaging Your Relationship?
Episode #036: Sexting For Grown Ups
Episode #037: Swinging! Should We Try It?
Episode #038: Nipple Stimulation DOs and DON’Ts
Episode #039: Sex Positions For Maximum Pleasure
Episode #040: The Venn Diagram of Desire
Episode #041: Outdoor Sex (Without Getting Caught!)
Episode #042: Lesbian Sex Tips For Everybody!
Episode #043: Unleash The Power Of Prostate Orgasms
Episode #044: Shattering The Greatest Sex Myth of All Time
Episode #045: Office Sex In Fantasy and Reality
Episode #046: A Recipe For Orgasmic Intercourse
Episode #047: Is Your Smartphone Ruining Your Sex Life?
Episode #048: Rough Sex – How To Get Started
Episode #049: What Great Lovers & Pro Athletes Have In Common
Episode #050: Sexual Chemistry: Become An Erotic Alchemist
Episode #051: All About Crygasms
Episode #052: Elle Chase (a.k.a. Lady Cheeky) Interview
Episode #053: Hollywood Sex In Your Bed
Episode #054: Overcoming Distraction For Better Sex
Episode #055: How To Explore Erotic Tease and Denial
Episode #056: Sexual Jealousy & Erotic Compersion
Episode #057: How To Have Bad Boy Sex With Your Prince Charming
Episode #058: The Missing Link In Your Sex Life
Episode #059: Help! My Partner Doesn’t Share My Fetish!
Episode #060: Asexuality: The Invisible Orientation
Episode #061: Sexual Superhero Secrets Revealed!
Episode #062: Lube: Everything You Need To Know
Episode #063: Boring Sex? Here Is How To Fix It!
Episode #064: How To Make Her Love Backdoor Play
Episode #065: When Is Masturbation Cheating?
Episode #066: The Importance of Erotic Gratitude
Episode #067: Low Sex Drive In Men? What To Do!
Episode #068: The Secrets of Female Arousal With Sheri Winston
Episode #069: Exploring Aural Pleasure With Rose Caraway
Episode #070: How To Set Erotic Goals
Episode #071: Stop Faking Orgasms: Here’s How
Episode #072: How To Overcome Sexual Shame
Episode #073: Peak Erotic Experiences : What Your Best Sex Ever Reveals
Episode #074: How To Be Romantic
Episode #075: Flirtation, Seduction & Initiation
Episode #076: 10 Tips For Your Best Sex Ever
Episode #077: Are Facials Degrading?
Episode #078: Beginner Rope Bondage With Lee Harrington
Episode #079: The Surprising Science of Sex With Emily Nagoski, Part 1
Episode #080: The Surprising Science of Sex With Emily Nagoski, Part 2
Episode #081: Naughty Sex For Grown Ups
Episode #082: Just The Tip: Exhibitionism and Voyeurism
Episode #083: Joan Price on Senior Sex
Episode #084: Just The Tip: The Erotic As Power
Episode #085: Our Take On Tantra
Episode #086: Just The Tip: The Multi Orgasmic Man
Episode #087: The Naked Truth: How To Get Confident Being Naked
Episode #088: Just The Tip: The Confidence & Orgasm Link
Episode #089: Intense Orgasm : Here’s How
Episode #090: Just The Tip: Warm Sex Strategies
Episode #091: The Art of the Blowjob
Episode #092: Just The Tip: Masturbation Is Natural
Episode #093: How To Make Your Fantasy A Reality
Episode #094: Just The Tip: Effective Erotic Communication
Episode #095: Is Masturbation Healthy?
Episode #096: Just The Tip: Secrets of Great Kissing
Episode #097: Long Distance Relationship Sex For Everyone
Episode #098: Just The Tip: Amanda Palmer On Making Emotional Connections
Episode #099: Dirty Talk: How To Get Started
Episode #100: The Pleasure Mechanics Reveal All!
Episode #101: Sex Tips For More Orgasmic Intercourse
Episode #102: Just The Tip: Esther Perel on Preventing Infidelity
Episode #103: Retired
Episode #104: Just The Tip: One Path To Ecstasy
Episode #105: Wife Spanking: Pleasure or Punishment?
Episode #106: Just The Tip: Cliteracy
Episode #107: Aphrodisiacs: What Really Works?
Episode #108: How To Surrender Into Orgasm
Episode #109: ATM Sex: Your Questions Answered
Episode #110: What Gay Marriage Means For Your Sex Life
Episode #111: Mutual Masturbation
Episode #112: Bonobo Sex and You
Episode #113: 237 Reasons To Have Sex
Episode #116: Need To Feel More Loved? Here’s How
Episode #117: Nipple Play How To
Episode #118: The Origin of Sex Law
Episode #119: The UnSlut Project
Episode #120: Ecstatic Arousal: How To
Episode #121: Fight Free Travel: 5 Tips
Episode #122: Pleasure Anxiety
Episode #124: Why Penis Size Matters
Episode #125: Performance Anxiety
Episode #126: Erotic Improv: Make Mistakes Please!
Episode #127: New Paths To Pleasure: Here’s How
Episode #128: Discover Your Sexiest Organ
Episode #129: Ask For What You Want In Bed
Episode #130: Lust, Love and Attachment: Helen Fisher on the Nature of Love
Episode #131: Anti-Porn Vs. Sex Positive Feminism: A Tribute To Candida Royalle
Episode #133: The Kivin Method of Cunnilingus
Episode #134: How To Strip Dance For Yourself
Episode #135: A Billion Wicked Thoughts Part 1
Episode #136: A Billion Wicked Thoughts Part 2
Episode #137: You Are Kinky – Why Everyone Needs To Explore Kinky Sex
Episode #138: Psychopathia Sexualis and You
Episode #140: Erotic Dominance
Episode #141: How We Got Kinky
Episode #142: Sexual Submission
Episode #143: Sexual Fantasies
Episode #144: Pleasure And Pain
Episode #145: Unleash Your Desires
(Episode #146: Retired)
(Episode #147: Retired)
Episode #148: Kick These People Out Of Bed
Episode #149: Dirty Dates: An Interview with Rachel Kramer Bussel
Episode #150: God, Sex and Pleasure (according to a Rabbi!)
Episode #152: Urban Tantra on How To Touch
Episode #153: Stop Being So Anal
Episode #154: The Myth Of Spontaneous Sex
Episode #156: The Truth About Men and Sex
Episode #161: Ecstasy Is Necessary
Episode #162: Sex During Pregnancy
Episode #164: Pelvic Floor Exercises For Better Sex
Episode #165: Kinky Communication With Patrick Califia
Episode #166: Sex and Depression with JoEllen Notte
Episode #167 Has Been Retired
Episode #169: Erotic Failure : No Such Thing
Episode #170: Epic Sex : How To Have It
Episode #171: How To Fall Deeper In Love
Episode #172: Swinging & Ethical Non-Monogamy with Cooper S. Beckett
Episode #174: Rimming: What You Need To Know
Episode #175: The Truth About The Clitoris
Episode #176: How To Move During Sex
Episode #177: The True Source of Desire
Episode #179: Is Anger Killing Your Sex Life?
Episode #180: How To Give A Handjob
Episode #181: Receiving Erotic Massage: A Man’s Perspective
Episode #182: Cock and Ball Play
Episode #183: Fingering Do’s and Don’ts
Episode #184: Cunnilingus Techniques
Episode #185: Prostate Milking
Episode #186: Sexual Satisfaction
Episode #187: Figging & Botanical Sex
Episode #188: Why Explore Female Domination & Male Submission?
Episode #189: Powerful Submission
Episode #190: Male Bisexuality
Episode #191: The Reromanticizing Exercise
Episode #192: Pegging and Prostate Play
Episode #193: In Sickness and In Health
Episode #194: Female Masturbation with Jenny Block
Episode #195: Sexual Tension & Sexual Frustration
Episode #196: Slow Masturbation from The Joy of Sex
Episode #197: The State of Male Sexuality
Episode #198: Nipple Stimulation & Nipple Toys
Episode #199: Retired
Episode #200: Retired
Episode #201: Body Confidence with Dawn Serra
Episode #202: The Emotional Authenticity of Erotic Touch
Episode #203: Sexual Fitness: Expert Advice
Episode #205: Erotic Playfulness with Cyndi Darnell
Episode #207: Retired
Episode #208: My Sexual Breakthrough Moment
Episode #209: Erotic Breathing with Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D.
Episode #210: Oral Sex Orgasms – Advanced Techniques
Episode #211: Retired
Episode #212: Cherish, Support, Adventure : Our Relationship Values
Episode #213: Sex Positions – Who Is In Control?
Episode #214: Exploring Erotic Possibilities with Barbara Carrellas
Episode #215: Retired
Episode #216: What’s Your Fetish?
Episode #217: Erotic Communication
Episode #218: Prolonging Intercourse
Episode #219: How To Get High On Sex
Episode #220: Sex and Disability with Andrew Gurza
Episode #221: Retired
Episode #222: Does Being Selfish Make Sex Better?
Episode #223: Taboo Sexual Fantasies – Where’s The Line?
Episode #225: How Guys Can Feel Sexier
Episode #226: Curvy Girl Sex with Elle Chase
Episode #227: Manage Your Turn Ons and Turn Offs
Episode #228: How To Initiate Sex
Episode #229: At The Male Strip Revue
Episode #230: Sex Out Of Obligation
Episode #231: I Want Sex – But Not With My Spouse!
Episode #232: Hookup Culture with Lisa Wade
Episode #233: Orgies, Sex Clubs and Sex Parties
Episode #234: Shedding the Stigma of Genital Herpes
Episode #235: The Erotic Power of Couples Massage (encore of Episode #058)
Episode #237: Sex After Baby Part 2: On Being A Sexual Woman And A Mom
Episode #238: First Steps Into Kinky Sex
Episode #239: Three Ways To Have More Fulfilling Sex
Episode #240: Becoming Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz
Episode #241: Surrendering Into Orgasm
Episode #242: Building Consent Culture with Kitty Stryker
Episode #244: Lust Vs. Disgust
Episode #245: The Gender Galaxy
Episode #246: Sex and Social Justice with Aida Manduley
Episode #247: How To Have An Affair With Your Spouse
Episode #248: Kinky Masturbation
Episode #249 : Female Performance Anxiety
Episode #251: Stress Free Travel Tips
Episode #252: Romantic Summer Sex
Episode #253: Sex In The Great Outdoors
Episode #254: The Peak Erotic Experience Exercise
Episode #255: How To Ask For What You Want
Episode #256: How To Have Spontaneous Sex
Episode #257: Attraction In Long Term Relationships
Episode #258: Retired
Episode #259: Simultaneous Orgasm
Episode #260: Sex Toys For Men
Episode #261: Multiple Orgasms For Every Body
Episode #262: Explicit Monogamy Agreements
Episode #263: Harnessing Jealousy As Erotic Fuel
Episode #264: Break The Rules – Together
Episode #265: Vibrator Nation Interview with Lynn Comella, Ph.D.
Episode #266: Naming Your True Desires
Bonus Episode: Erotic Gift Giving Guide
Episode #267: Sexual Desire: Spontaneous Vs. Responsive
Episode #268: Emotional Generosity
Episode #269: Esther Perel Interview on Sex, Power & Desire
Episode #270: Is Male Sexuality Predatory By Nature?
Episode #271: The Power Of Erotic Intentions
Episode #272: Distracted During Sex? Here’s What To Do!
Episode #273: Pelvic Floor Pleasure with Dr. UC
Episode #274: It’s More Than Bad Sex
Episode #275: Karen Duffy on Pleasure, Pain and Purpose
Bonus Episode: What Is Mindful Sex?
Episode #276: Mindful Sex for Sexual Wellbeing, Better Orgasms and Deeper Love
Episode #278: Sex Positive Families with Melissa Carnagey
Episode #280: Jealousy, Arousal & Anxiety
Episode #282: Stop Asking THIS Question!
Episode #283: Talking Sex With Sex Talk With My Mom Hosts Karen Lee Poter and Cameron Poter
Episode #284: Have A Good Ask In Bed
Episode #285: Emerging Out Of Sexual Hibernation
Episode #286: Writing As Erotic Practice with Jen Cross of Writing Ourselves Whole
Episode #287: Why You Masturbate They Way You Do – A History Lesson
Episode #288: Ending Performance Anxiety with Vanessa Marin
Episode #289: Rethinking Sexual Performance Anxiety
Episode #290: Better Sex Through Mindfulness with Lori Brotto, Ph.D.
Episode #291: The Emily Nagoski Interview Encore Episode
Episode #292: Dual Model Control of Arousal Encore Episode
Episode #293: Transforming Rejection Into Refusal Encore Episode
Episode #294: Get Specific About Your Erotic Desires Encore Episode
Episode #295: Getting Kinky In A Long Term Relationship
Episode #296: Tell Me What You Want: Exploring Sexual Fantasy with Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D.
Episode #297: Surviving Sexless Seasons
Episode #298: Expanding Orgasmic Capacity
Episode 299: How To Enjoy Ethical Porn
Episode 300: Retired
Episode 301: Sex Love Liberation with Ev’yan Whitney
Episode 302: Bisexual…And Already Married
Episode 303: Slow Down For Better Sex
Episode 304: Full Body Orgasms For Every Body
Episode 305: The Path To Female Orgasm with Vanessa Marin
Episode 306: Remaking Manhood Interview with Mark Greene
Episode 307: Joey Soloway on Desire, Freedom and Play
Episode 309: Having Fun With Erotic Roleplaying
Episode 310: Butt Plugs! Who, What, Where, When, Why and How!
Episode 311: Women Get Erections Too! Here’s What You Need To Know
Episode 312: Help! My Partner Won’t Play Along
Episode 313: Cock Worship, Pussy Worship and Reverent Sex
Episode 315: The Resilient Edge of Resistance (A Sexual Superpower Revealed!)
Episode 316: Cannabis, Sex and You – What You Need To Know
Episode 317: With Love, Gratitude and Deep Respect: Closing Out 2018
Episode 318: Esther Perel’s 7 Verbs of Love
Episode 319: Learning Pleasure Through Movement With Jane Clapp
Episode 320: The Emotions of Erectile Dysfunction with Tiffany Anton
Episode 321: Reclaiming Soft Penis Pleasures
Episode 322: Body Kindness with Rebecca Scritchfield – A Sluts and Scholars guest episode
Episode 323: Making Noise During Sex
Episode 324: Explore More With Us!
Episode 325: Exploring Attachment Theory with Aida Manduley
Episode 326: Your Pleasure Constellation
Episode 327: What To Do With Desires Unfulfilled
Episode 328: Expanding Erotic Communication With Stella Harris
Episode 329: Wet and Ready: Debunking Myths About Female Arousal and Wetness
Episode 330: Burnout: The Stress and Sex Connection – An Interview With Emily Nagoski
Episode 331: Too Stressed Out For Sex? Here’s How To Complete The Stress Cycle
Episode 332: Create Your Bedroom Haven
Episode 333: Your Body Is Good Enough
Episode 334: Mindful Masturbation
Episode 335: Mindful Sex For Men With Performance Anxiety
Episode 336: Explore With Curiosity: Attitudes For Kinkier Sex
Episode 337: Learning To Orgasm with Vanessa Marin
Episode 338: Sexual Attitude Adjustments
Episode 339: Not Always In The Mood – Interview With Sarah Hunter Murray
Episode 340: Your Sexuality, Somewhere Over The Rainbow
Episode 341: Opening Up Conversations About Monogamy and Non-Monogamy
Episode 342: What Are You Hungry For? Interview with Dawn Serra
Episode 343: Sex Moves – Harness The Motion Of Your Ocean
Episode 344: Encore Episode: How To Make Oral Sex More Intense
Episode 345: Joseph Kramer Interview Part 1 – The Origin Of Erotic Massage
Episode 346: Joseph Kramer Interview Part 2 – Sharing Erotic Massage With The World
Episode 347: Falling In Love With Erotic Massage
Episode 348: Become A More Satisfied Mama with Dana B Myers
Episode 349: Rethinking Libido Problems
Episode 350: Libido, Lost and Found – An Interview With Vanessa Marin
Episode 351: Desire: The Pleasure Of Wanting
Episode 352: Sexual Frustration
Episode 353: Passionate Transitions with Lucie Fielding
Episode 354: A New Approach To Anal Play
Episode 355: Are There Different Types of Orgasms? G-Spot, A-Spot, P-Spot Orgasms?
Episode 356: Taking Turns In Bed: How To Practice Giving and Receiving Pleasure
Episode 357: Recalibrate Towards Pleasure
Episode 358: Breaking The Hymen Myth
Episode 359: What Is Sexual Freedom?
Episode 360: What Do You Want?
Episode 361:The 60 Second Pleasure Point Challenge
Episode 362: Savoring: A Foundational Pleasure Practice
Episode 363: The Pleasure Mechanics visit Sex Talk With My Mom
Episode 364: Finding New Pleasure Pathways
Episode 365: How To Be More Romantic
Episode 366: Taking Sexy Back : An Interview with Alexandra Solomon
Episode 367: Fucking Vs. Making Love Encore Episode
Episode 368: Love In The Time Of Corona
Episode 369: Mutual Aid & Generating Care with Aida Manduley, LCSW
Episode 370: Together and Alone: Eroticism During Social Distancing
Episode 371: Desperately Seeking Sensation
Episode 372: Cultivate Your Erotic Context
Episode 373: Turning Towards Pleasure While Living With Pain & Illness
Episode 374: The Key To Pleasure & Connection
Episode 375: Feeling Myself – Discovering Erotic Interoception
Episode 376: Ten Ways To Become A Better Lover
Episode 377: Finding Just Right
Episode 378: Sex, Power & Creating Change
Episode 379: Sex & Power In Marriage
Episode 380: Erotic Game Play – Rules, Roles & Goals
Episode 381: How To Practice Gratitude
Episode 382: Will I Ever Love Sex Again?
Episode 383: How To Set Erotic Intentions
Episode 384: Moving For Pleasure : A Thing Called Movement Guest Episode
Episode 385: Intimate Relationships 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Episode 386: Rethinking Valentines Day
Episode 387: Fantasy Vs. Desire
Episode 388: Before Pleasure Comes Safety
Episode 389: Come As You Are Interview with Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.
Episode 390: A Sexplanation Documentary : An Interview and Invitation To Watch With Us!
Episode 391: Slay Sexual Shame
Episode 392: Mindful Masturbation Encore Episode
Episode 393: How To Uplevel Your Solo Sex Life
Episode 394: In Graphic Detail: Interview with Meg-John Barker
Episode 395: The Pleasures Of Play
Episode 396: Psychogenic Arousal
Episode 397: Exploring Erotic Thrills
Episode 398: Thrill Vs. Delight
Episode 399: Intense Sex Vs. Extreme Sex
Episode 400: Celebrating 15 years and 400 Episodes
Episode 401: To Orgasm and Beyond!
Episode 403: Keep It Warm (So It Is Easier To Get Hot!)
Episode 404: Sex Toys & Pleasure Tools
Episode 405: Designing The Ultimate Handjob Machine
Episode 406: Managing Trauma Triggers : Interview with Jamila Dawson and August McLaughlin
Episode 407: Glimmers & Sparks: Coming Home To Pleasure
Episode 408: The Power Bottom Playbook
Episode 409: Getting Off Script
Episode 410: Curate Your Erotic Expression
Episode 411: Expanding Erotic Horizons
Episode 412: The Masturbatory Assist
Episode 413: Playing With Penetration Part 1: Graceful Penetration
Episode 414: Playing With Penetration Part 2: Internal Stimulation
Episode 415: Playing With Penetration Part 3: Fisting & Big Penetration
Episode 416: Playing Without Penetration : Fulfilling Sexuality Beyond Intercourse
Episode 417: Erogenous Zone Activation
Episode 418: Igniting Erotic Touch
Episode 419: Troublesome Turn-Ons with Nicoletta Heidegger
Episode 420: Cannabis, Pleasure & Connection with Shango Los
Episode 421: Too Ticklish To Touch?
Episode 422: Ritualizing Romance
Episode 425: Understanding Sexual Shame with Rahim Thawer
Episode 426: The Magic of MicroMassage
Episode 427: The Power of Percussive Touch
Episode 428: The Sweet Spot Of Erotic Spanking
Episode 429: Open Deeply with Kate Loree
Episode 431: Developing Sexual Confidence
Episode 432: Perineum Pleasures
Episode 433: Dual Zones of Erotic Stimulation
Episode 434: Beginner’s Erotic Mind
Episode 435: Placement of Erotic Attention
Episode 436: Reclaiming Pleasure with Dr. Holly Richmond
Episode 437: Releasing Judgement
Episode 438: Seeking Sexual Freedom with the Woodhull Freedom Foundation
Episode 439: Coming Out, For Us All
Episode 440: Exploring Your Sexual Orientations
Episode 441: Erotic Pride As An Antidote To Shame
Episode 443: Opening Up To More Connection with the Open Nesters Podcast
Episode 444: D/s Dynamics For All
Episode 445: Asking Questions For Better Sex
Episode 446: Getting The Touch You Want
Episode 447: Butt Stuff, Pleasure Mechanics Style
Episode 448: Erotic Roleplaying for Everybody
Episode 449: Intensifying Sensation Play
Episode 452: The Neuroscience of Pleasure with Dr. Nan Wise
Episode 453: How To Build A Sex Room On Any Budget
Episode 454: Preventing Premature Penetration
Episode 455: Open To Receiving
Episode 456: Prioritize Your Pleasure
Episode 457: Getting Naked Together
Episode 458: Stretching Into Pleasure
Episode 460: Cockwarming, Docking & Engulfment
Episode 461: Navigating Depression In Intimate Relationships with JoEllen Notte
Episode 462: Getting Intimate While Bleeding
Episode 463: MiniKink Scenes To Explore Kinky Sex
Episode 464: Embracing Erotic Eras
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